So this really cool thing is starting to happen where I'm working with a lot of guys

The guys are kind of initiating this. I know it's coming from the wives, but I'm starting to mentor them

and coach them through a lot of these different situations and it's evolving into like hey could you talk to my wife

about this and the wife's like could you talk to my husband about this and I was like maybe it'd be really good if you

two talk together but sometimes it's helpful to have someone from the outside who kind of gets how difficult the kids are,

how this dynamic works. But what I'm loving is that the guys are really taking a hold of this, right?

And it's really changing things.

So one of the things a lot of guys struggle with is just how to have relationships.

Like we're good at working, you know, we can work our buttsts off I can fix things around the house but having a relationship with a especially with a more challenging child or with another human being for those of you who are engineers out there, right?

Where those of you are kind of on the spectrum yourself, it's hard.

It doesn't come natural to you.

So I wanted to share with you something that I hope you can share with maybe your spouse or if you're a guy listening. I hope this helps you. So this is kind of a bonus episode of the Calm Parenting Podcast. for those who don't know I'm

Kirkmart and founder celebrate calm find us to celebrate calm dot com if you need help reach

out to our son Casey see a s you white celebrate calm dot com will be glad to help

you out so I'm doing a lot of this mentoring now with people.

And so I was talking to this dad and he's like, I don't know how to relate to my 13 year old daughter. Now this could be with a younger kid, it could be with a boy, it doesn't matter. But here's the process I went through in a very specific example because one thing I found is that guys really like very specific examples like tell me exactly what to do and say and I'll go do it because just saying oh you know you need to

connect with your child more it's too generic I don't even know what that means

so this is a guy with a 13 year old daughter and this is

basically the plan that I told him. Overall things you have to take an interest in

your child's world.

You have to be curious.

Ask questions.

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