How to be an adult - and how to raise one (w/ Julie Lythcott-Haims) (re-release)

How to Be a Better Human

TED

Self-improvement, Education

4.2 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Whether it’s grades and test scores, cushy jobs or big salaries, our ideas of “success” tend to be incredibly narrow and often start incredibly early. Julie Lythcott-Haims is a New York Times bestselling author and former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford, and she is dedicated to helping people reconsider what really makes a happy, “successful” adult. Julie shares wisdom for parents and anyone who has been parented on why it’s crucial to question societal expectations, how to find your own path and why empathy towards yourself and others are the true key to loving who you’ll grow up to be. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

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0:00.0	Ted Audio Collective. of an old episode from our show but it is one that I think has only become more relevant.
0:14.5	It's with Julie Lith got Hames and it's about how to be an adult and how to raise one.
0:19.7	So for me personally it's become a lot more relevant to think about how to raise an adult because I am a dad now.
0:25.8	But also thinking about those same things for yourself.
0:28.0	What does it mean to be an adult? What does it mean to be a member of society? What does it mean to be a grown-up? These are things that I am figuring
0:36.8	out in myself, for myself, as well as figuring out for my kid, and I think that may be something that you relate to too. So there's a lot there and we think that you will enjoy hearing this episode again. I hope that you will and without further ado here is how to be an adult and how to raise one with Julie Lith God Hames.
0:54.7	We'll be back with more new episodes of How to Be a Better Human next week.
1:07.0	You're listening to How to be a better human. I'm your host Chris Duffy. Sometimes with friends I play this game where we try and pinpoint what our internal age is.
1:12.0	I don't mean our actual biological age, but rather how old we feel on the inside.
1:17.0	I have some friends who are definitely extremely elderly. They're ones who love an early bedtime and they love an early bird special.
1:25.1	They like to eat dinner while the sun is still high in the sky.
1:28.7	And personally, for me, I feel like I am 10 years old on the inside. I'm just like so excited to be here and to get to run around and to read chapter books and to learn facts.
1:40.0	Now your internal age, it may or may not change, but on the outside we all do age we all age in the same direction and at the same pace and that comes with real challenges
1:49.4	usually challenges that we do not have a road map for how to address.
1:53.0	And without formal instruction, we all have to figure out on our own what it means to be an adult.
1:58.0	For you, that might mean anything from learning how to budget your money,
2:02.0	to navigating relationships, to developing agency and
2:04.9	self-regulation. Or maybe for you being an adult means something completely different, like having
2:10.3	fresh berries in your refrigerator. I know that for me whenever I see fresh berries in your refrigerator.
2:12.5	I know that for me whenever I see fresh berries in someone's fridge,
2:15.3	I think, oh wow, that is an adult.
2:18.2	Regardless of what being an adult means to you, figuring out how to be an adult, is what today's guest Julie Lithgot-Hames is an expert in.
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