How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship

The School of Greatness

Lewis Howes

Entrepreneurship, Fitness, Inspiration, Greatness, Health, Money, Celebrity Interview, Self Care, Celebrity, Success, Mental Health, Relationships, Mindset, Health & Fitness, Education, Alternative Health, Business, Self-improvement

4.8 • 21.6K Ratings

🗓️ 21 February 2025

⏱️ 85 minutes

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Summary

Four renowned experts unpack why we stay in toxic relationships and reveal the hidden psychological patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of emotional dependency. Bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert shares her journey from love addiction to emotional sobriety, discovering how finding a higher power led to deeper self-acceptance. Psychologist Dr. Guy Winch reveals why early relationship patterns become like cement - moldable at first but quickly hardening into permanent dynamics. Relationship experts Matthew Hussey and Sadia Khan explore why we stay in unhealthy relationships, how fear drives us to lower our standards, and the critical importance of communicating deal-breakers before committing. Together, these four perspectives illuminate the path from toxic patterns to thriving relationships through self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional maturity.

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0:00.0	There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before.
0:04.6	I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time.
0:12.3	It is going to be big, and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days.
0:17.5	Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to
0:22.3	Austin, Texas, New York, Boston, we're going to Nashville, then we're going to Los Angeles,
0:28.8	San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to Lewishouse.com
0:34.1	slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know if you're looking to create more financial freedom
0:39.0	and abundance to your life. And you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness
0:44.4	Show. Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there.
0:51.3	The greatest harm that I've ever done to other people was through me not knowing how to take care of myself.
0:58.2	Because if I don't take care of myself, a few things are going to happen.
1:02.6	I'm going to lose my mind.
1:05.4	I'm going to become super needy, super clingy, and super manipulative.
1:10.4	Because I'm going to try to get my needs met
1:12.7	through you.
1:14.7	And that means I'm going to be objectifying you and using you as a parental replacement,
1:21.5	a sex toy, a sleeping pill, an unpaid therapist, you know, whatever the need, this huge
1:31.7	yawning need in me, I will, parts of me will go out there and try to get that need met.
1:37.7	You know, so either I can figure out how to get that need met or like that teenager is going
1:40.7	to figure out how to get that need met and all the amends that I've ever had to make to anybody in my life for the grave harm that I brought to them were because I didn't
1:49.9	know how to take care of myself. And so I had harmed them, blamed them, used them, manipulated them,
1:59.7	you know, tried to force them to be something that they couldn't
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