How to Stay Calm When You’re Disrespected

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education

5 • 5.8K Ratings

🗓️ 1 April 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

You are not a target. Not a punching bag. Not the release valve for someone else’s frustration. In the middle of the book tour whirlwind, I’m reflecting on a powerful review someone left for The Next Conversation and diving into the first and most foundational rule of the book: say it with control. I’ll walk you through a mindset shift that’s helped thousands of people—not just to win arguments, but to protect their peace. We talk about regulating our fight-or-flight response, how to use your breath as a pause button, and why you are never required to absorb someone else’s emotional baggage. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Also, come meet me on my book tour! Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You are not a target. You are not somebody's punching back. You are not somebody's outlet for all of
0:08.8	their frustration and their anger and their insecurities that have been built up all their life.
0:15.6	This episode is a little bit different for the podcast. One, it's very early on a Saturday morning, and I wanted to
0:21.6	record this so that I had the full day with the kids. So if it looks like my face hasn't woken up yet,
0:26.5	it's because it hasn't. We're in the middle of the book tour, which is going fantastic,
0:30.6	but I wanted to make time to tell you what is on my heart. You ready? Welcome to the Jefferson
0:37.0	Fisher podcast, where I'm on a mission to make
0:39.1	your next conversation, the one that changes everything. If you like learning tools to improve
0:43.9	your communication, I want you to follow this podcast. If you're watching it, wherever you are,
0:48.9	please add it as a subscriber and give it a like, give it start anything really makes a difference so i appreciate that and
0:56.5	if you have any topic suggestions just throw them in the comments hey and while we're at it how are you
1:02.9	liking the podcast really i know i've moved out of my car so i was making them in my car really just an
1:09.5	iphone and i had, I say the studio built
1:13.7	that you're seeing. It's just a room. That's it. Nothing fancy. So how are you liking it? Do you like
1:18.8	it better when I'm just in my car? Do you like this studio? You like to set up. Is this the sound
1:23.7	better for you? And because it is a better better mic do you like me having guests and trying
1:28.8	that out or do you like it when I do solo or do you like a mix of both I am at a time in my life
1:34.5	where I am making sure my priority is that whatever I do it's fitting the life that I have
1:42.9	with my family as the priority. And I will always make
1:47.2	my videos and do all that. And there's a lot of wonderful things coming down the road that I can't
1:51.0	wait to share with you. But right now with this podcast, I want to make sure it fits my life
1:54.7	because that's where I'm going to show up best for you every time. So I want you to let me
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