What is up daddy gang? It is your founding father Alex Cooper with call her daddy.

Dr Judy welcome to call her daddy.

I'm so excited to be here.

So excited to have you.

Daddy gang, Dr Judy is a triple board certified

and licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist and author of the book Stop self-sabotage.

I'm so excited to do this episode with you because self-sabotage is something a lot of people I think manage to do without any awareness

around it and I think this is going to be very helpful for a lot of my listeners so let's get into it how do you define self-sabotage? So self-sabotage put

very simply is just getting in your own way despite your best intentions and this could happen in all areas of life, it could happen with

your career, happen with friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, or your health and

wellness calls. Why is self-sabotage a universal experience.

So what I believe about self-sabotage

is that it's really rooted in our biology and our evolutionary instincts,

but it's almost like the switch got turned around. So essentially, all human beings have two major drives. It's to attain rewards and to avoid threat. That's how we survive as individuals and also as a species. But sometimes through experiences or maybe through other types of things that have happened whether earlier in our life or in our adult lives or what shaped our personality, there's a few different reasons for it, which we can get into. But sometimes what happens is that avoiding threats which gets turned way up. So if those two things are in balance, attaining rewards and avoiding threat, everything's all good. But when you're trying really hard to avoid threat, that out of balance is what self-savotage is, because you start to avoid the things

that you probably should take a little risk for, but you don't because of the various fears that have sort of accumulated throughout the years.

And a lot of this is subconscious to people. So that's why people are saying,

I self- sabotage something because on the surface and when they talk to themselves or other people they're always saying yes I want this goal but then how come they get in the way it's because those fears end up turning your avoiding threat switch way up and then you start doing things to essentially stop

yourself from meeting the other goals that you set for yourself.

That is such a great way to look at it and it seems again so simple and yet it's so hard to avoid doing it.

So you have an acronym life.

So can you explain the factors, aka this life acronym you have that contribute to self-sabotage?

Definitely. So this life acronym are the most common reasons why people turn up that threat switch.

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