My name is Paudrigo Tuma and one of the things that can often be really powerful in the context of conflict that happens between people is when two people who wouldn't have been friends with each other might have had huge differences

suddenly find something that they mutually hate and their bond goes really deep

because they're suddenly like do you hate that thing? Yeah I hate that thing. I can be called triangulation, and it can be really

unhelpful even if it can feel lovely at the start. But there's another way that triangulation

can happen, which is where two people who have differences with each other can find something

that drives them deeper into love and care and courage.

And that is an extraordinary thing when it happens.

That kind of triangulation is built on something that deepens their humanity,

deepens their point of view, possibly deepens their differences as well,

but shows their differences in a light where they can sustain them in the context also of honoring human relationship. Hebrews 13 by

by Jericho Brown. Once long ago in a land I cannot name, my lover and my brother, both knocked at my door

like wind in an early winter.

I turned the heat high and poured coffee blacker than their hands,

which shivered as we sat in silence so thin I had to hum.

They drank with a speed that must have burned their tongues,

one hot cop, then another,

like two bitter friends who only wished to be warm again, like two

worn copies of a holy book bound by words to keep watch over my life in the cold and never ever sleep. I'm going to be here. This is a short punch of a poem from Jericho Brown, it is 12 lines long, and you think maybe it's going to be

like a fable once long ago, and often it might be followed with in a land far far away or something that would follow

that along but he says once long ago in a land I cannot name and it's not in a land I

don't remember or in a place I forget it's not in a land I don't remember or in a place I forget. It's cannot name.

I'm curious about what can't be named.

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