When you're communicating with people again connection connection connection why does it matter and not that you want to be nice to people it's not about being nice it is about

negotiating about communicating it's about connecting when you do all these things you will be

welcome to the school of greatness my name is Lewis how is a former pro athlete turn lifestyle entrepreneur and each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner

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so curious for people that I feel like they've lost their self esteem and confidence what are some things that people could do to really own their

confidence again and build it back up everything you're saying actually is true and I've seen it because I've had so many people reach out to ask

about questions and there's a pattern we're in a very fear based place where people are very fear based very unsure themselves very unsure of their decisions even

when we're seeing this mass exodus people leaving work you seeing people almost reevaluating themselves trying to understand their lives people are not

as assertive or certain about a lot of things they're not definitive they're not clear they're not it's very fear based very fear based I'm not sure I'm afraid even

even I even see them the classroom I'm an adjunct lecturer and professor and I teach criminal justice and criminology so even in my classroom I will see my students be afraid to raise their

hand when I ask why because they're they don't want to silly or something or they don't want to be wrong and we're also in this space where people are afraid to say

the wrong thing and be wrong so it's fear in so many ways so it's not just the physical fear of the body right the illness is the COVID all that stuff but it's also this fear of what is the world

going to think of me how am I going to be labeled and I will sit in class I will ask a question nobody raises their hand because they don't they don't want to be wrong and then even when I can get them to speak you can see them speaking

very hushed tones very soft I can barely hear them and and I tell them own your answer don't worry about being right be wrong it's a classroom environment yeah

and so I think it comes from a very fear based we're just very afraid in general

it's interesting I've been doing a lot of research for a new book I've been writing about really three main things that hold us back in our life the three main fears that cause us to doubt ourselves the fear of failure the fear of success in the fear of judgment other people's opinions

and for most of my life the fear of other people's opinions was the biggest thing that helped me back I was the one who wouldn't raise my hand I wouldn't speak aloud because I was so afraid of being made fun of or picked on or whatever might be

how can someone overcome that fear of you know a classmate laughing about them or saying that was a dumb question or just something maybe bigger they're putting something on social media and getting attacks or

or whatever might be how do people overcome that insecurity well I think do you think we've taken a step back actually in person communication a huge step everything now is people are more comfortable in texting

and communicating communicating through social and then when it comes to in person something's completely shifted you can see people having a harder time communicating in person and everyone's kind of deviating towards typing texting or email

it's become the comfort what's the most the easiest way to communicate with us yeah exactly Texas the easiest email so here's the thing in person is the best way to communicate by the way

whenever I can speak to somebody in person or sit down and see them like this this is where you get the best these where you get magic right then there's you okay then there's the phone phone is another great way

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