In this lesson's episode, discover the Four Tendencies Framework that illuminates how responses to expectations shape behavior.

Learn why identifying whether one is an upholder, questioner, obliger, or rebel is vital for self-awareness

and understand how this insight empowers better decision-making and personal growth.

Okay, so let's go back to four tendencies.

First of all, before we even get there, why did these tendencies come up?

Where do they come from?

Okay.

I created them because, so I was working on my book about habit change, and I started seeing how patterns emerge that I couldn't explain.

Like certain people would say like exactly the same thing and exactly the same words. Like people would say, well,

I'll keep a New Year's resolution when it, when I, when I think it's important, but I wouldn't

wait for January 1st because January 1st is an arbitrary date. And they would always say that

arbitrary. And I was like, that's interesting because the fact that January 1st is an arbitrary

date really doesn't bother me. So but to this

class of people, that's clearly very important. But my big moment of revelation came when I was,

my sister calls me a happiness bully because if I think there's a way for you to get happier,

I can't I get insistent? So I was drilling a friend about her happiness and her habits.

And she said something that just

blew my mind. She said, because I'd heard many people say something like this. She said,

when I was in high school, I was on the track team and I never missed track practice. So why can't

I go running on my own now? So why? So I can come up with a lot of different theories, but why? And I started thinking about

that and all the arbitrary people, all these different patterns that I observed. And I was sitting

right here right in the sea where I'm talking to you this moment. And it was like the word

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