(Matt Monday): How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone You Want

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2022

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class.

And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and information become “compatibility clues” that either build up or tear down the relationship you’ve created in your mind . . .

Unfortunately, living in our heads in this way can turn into obsessing, and render us incapable of feeling excited about anything other than seeing or hearing from that person. In other words, they occupy a space in our minds they’ve not yet earned!

In this week’s new video, I share with you the mindsets that can both help and hurt you in dating, as well as the best way to determine if you and this person could really work out.

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0:00.0	I'm going to, you know, time it so that he's leaving his class at the same time that I'm going into mine.
0:05.2	And when I catch him in that moment, I'm going to talk to him about the weekend and then based on that.
0:10.0	For anyone who gets too caught up on someone, too obsessed, too worked up about the potential of something too quickly.
0:39.0	It's such a common thing. I'm sure like me, you have had times in your past or present when you have done this.
0:46.0	And it really is poison to our love lives if we want to find something real and meaningful.
0:53.0	I also want to let everyone know that from the 11th to the 13th, we have our final virtual retreat of the year.
1:00.0	This is it. This is the moment.
1:02.0	Three days of immersive coaching with me live. No, it's not a love life retreat.
1:07.0	It doesn't matter if you're single or in a relationship. It's a life retreat.
1:11.0	It doesn't matter if you're a woman or a man, everyone can come.
1:14.0	It's for anybody who wants to make 2023 their greatest year ever.
1:18.0	Not just for results or success, but for happiness and peace and confidence.
1:23.0	It's going to be an incredible time. Do not miss this opportunity.
1:26.0	This is the last call. Go to MHVirtualRetreat.com to get your ticket.
1:32.0	So many of you know I have a club, the love life club, where every month I answer questions live,
1:41.0	do coaching with people in this exclusive group.
1:44.0	And this month, one of my members came forward to ask me a question about a guy she had been obsessing over.
1:54.0	She started with this. Have you seen West Side Story?
1:58.0	I went, ooh. Tell me more. Knife fights.
2:04.0	Home or erotic police officers. Dancing.
2:08.0	I was waiting for some drama baby. But the drama never came.
2:13.0	Turns out this was a gentleman with whom she had exchanged some looks at the gym.
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