Minisode Monday #36 | Protection from Emotional Buttons

The Art of Charm

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🗓️ 16 January 2017

⏱️ 3 minutes

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Summary

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. We all have emotional buttons that set us off for some reason or another. But we don't have to be at their mercy if we understand where they come from and what they're trying to tell us. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: The emotional buttons that set us off aren't logical, but they can be identified and defused logically. These emotional buttons are most easily pressed by those who are closest to us. They know how to push them because they're the ones who helped install them in the first place! The root cause of why these emotional buttons are so powerful is due to one of two things: it calls attention to something that's partially true and bothers us about ourselves, or it's contrary to one of our core values and it offends us deeply. This week, try to observe what emotional buttons are most easily triggered and try to determine which of these two reasons applies. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: [email protected] (he reads everything)! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Adam Corolla Show, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/mm36/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming!

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0:00.0	Hey Jordan Harbinger here, welcome to MiniSode Monday. I'm happy to be here with you kicking off the
0:05.0	week with something quick and actionable that you can implement right away. That should make you
0:09.4	more magnetic and effective or just break a bad habit, which is kind of where I'm going with this
0:14.0	one today. Now, whenever anyone says something and it gets an emotional rise or a reaction out of
0:19.6	us, it's usually because of one of two things. One, it's partially true and it's something that
0:25.6	even bothers us about ourselves or two. It's something so contrary to one of our core values,
0:31.1	even if we don't label it as such, that it offends us deeply. Now, let's focus on the first reason
0:36.4	for now. The other day, someone I don't know well told me upon my arrival that it seemed like I was
0:41.3	always late. I simply shrugged it off because I am very punctual. I hadn't been late the past few
0:46.8	days of the workshop we were in and I even forgot about it until I needed an example for this video.
0:52.3	However, had she known me better and found something more specific to me, something with maybe a
0:57.4	kernel of truth to it, it may have been the type of comment that I would sit on and let stew for
1:01.8	quite a while because look, I'm not even immune to all this stuff. So don't worry about it if you
1:06.0	aren't. Now, the reason we often get upset with significant others, family, close friends,
1:11.4	it's because they know exactly where our buttons are and therefore they can be pretty skilled at
1:17.6	pushing them. In the case of close family, especially parents, they are the ones who helped install
1:23.3	those buttons in the first place. See, when we find something that bothers us emotionally,
1:28.8	it's because it acts as a reminder, a highlighter, if you will, on something that we aren't especially
1:34.6	proud of, a character weakness or a flaw, a vice or an event we'd rather put behind us and forget.
1:41.2	Now, this week, this is where the action is for us. Observe not only others but yourself.
1:47.6	What pushes your buttons emotionally? What gets a rise out of you? If we can find those buttons,
1:54.1	we can find some truth in there. If it's a truth that bothers us on an emotional level,
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