Speaking about our early experiences, the first word in the sort of subtitle of your book is the word trauma.

It's a word that I've talked about a lot on this podcast and I've, you know, I've had a lot of people here that have opened up about their traumas.

How do you define trauma?

I know society has defined it in its own way, but how do you define it?

Yeah.

I define it very specifically.

It's not something bad that happens to you.

It's not that, you know, I went to this movie last night and I was traumatized.

No, you weren't.

You were just sad or you had some emotional pain, but you weren't traumatized.

Trauma means a wound.

That's the literal meaning of the word.

It's a Greek word for wounding.

So trauma is a psychological wound that you sustain.

And it behaves like a wound.

So on one hand, a wound if it's very raw, if you touch it, it just really hurts.

So if I have a wound around not being wanted, then, or the belief that I'm not, then decades later, if anything reminds me of that, it hurts as much as it did when I originally incurred the wound.

So in one sense, trauma is an unhealed wound that touched, we get triggered.

That's what triggering means, by the way. wound won't gets activated or touched and the other thing

that happens to wounds is that they scar over and scar tissue has certain characteristics

it's thick it has no nerve ending so there's no feeling in it so people traumatized

disconnected from their feelings

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