My Dirty Little Secret About Alone Time
Big Time Adulting
Caitlin Murray
4.9 • 811 Ratings
🗓️ 28 February 2024
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
In this refreshing monologue, inspired by one of her most viral reels, Caitlin Murray shares her dirty little secret about what she really craves as a mom of three: alone time. Not just any alone time. It's alone time given to her by her husband. It doesn’t require childcare or coordination or the pressure to be productive. Her mind can be at ease knowing her children are cared for by a parent. And she doesn’t want him to have it easy. She wants him to immerse fully into the chaos and experience the full weight of juggling the shit show that's solo parenting.
Caitlin goes on to examine how society tells women that motherhood should feel natural and easy and therefore mothers have it easier than fathers who work outside of the home. Caitlin believes by giving fathers the opportunity to solo parent in the early childhood years is one step closer to respecting the role of mothers in society.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Here's a confession, I guess. As a mom of three, the one thing that I kind of want more of in life is alone time. And here's my dirty little secret. I want the person that gives me that alone time to be my husband. I don't want a babysitter. I don't want to leave my house. I don't want to have to coordinate with somebody else. I don't want to play nice, nice upon comings and |
| 0:21.6 | goings. I want my husband to share as much as humanly possible in the experience that is the |
| 0:27.9 | shit show of taking care of kids by yourself. I want him to know why I'm a little ticked off. |
| 0:33.4 | You know, I want him to fully comprehend the misery of being the permanent swing bitch at the playground, because that job sucks. |
| 0:41.1 | I don't even want it to be, like, easy for him. |
| 0:43.0 | I want him to run into a couple of issues along the way, like, say, somebody has to poop, but the nearest bathroom is just far away enough that everybody has to leave the playground in order to go to the bathroom. |
| 0:55.4 | I want it to be a little bit of a pain in the ass |
| 0:57.9 | so he knows what it's really like every day. |
| 1:01.4 | And I wanna be alone for long enough |
| 1:03.3 | to actually start to like miss the feeling of human touch |
| 1:06.3 | because I'm a little touched out right now. |
| 1:08.0 | But here's the carrot, Dads. |
| 1:09.8 | If you give your wives that precious |
| 1:12.6 | alone time, which they so desperately need, the human that they want to touch again could be you. |
| 1:22.2 | Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the big time adulting podcast. I'm Caitlin Murray. So this reel that I posted got a lot of attention. And I felt at the time a little anxious about posting it because, as you might know from following me, I love and cherish my relationship with my husband. |
| 1:43.5 | And I never want to portray him in any kind of negative light. |
| 1:49.5 | Like, that is not my schick. |
| 1:51.1 | I'm not here to be like husbands or idiots or whatever. |
| 1:54.9 | And, man, do I ever respect my husband? |
| 1:58.1 | He's a fantastic father and person. And he happens to work a lot. He has very long |
| 2:07.6 | hours outside of the home. He leaves very early in the morning before anyone's awake in the |
| 2:13.0 | house. And he often comes home at least after Lucie has been put to bed. |
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