Am I the jerk for not wanting my husband to go away for the weekend for his best friend's bachelor party when I'm 37 weeks pregnant?

Now the original post for this one came back in March of 2019.

My husband's best friend got engaged and my husband is in the wedding party.

He's not the best man, but is doing most of the planning for the bachelor party.

In his friend group, they usually do a

golf weekend. Also, this is likely the last bachelor party in the group as the rest of the guys are

already married. Well, who say one of them might be divorced and they might go again? The stats

would say that's actually pretty likely. Anyway, let's carry on. I'll stop being silly.

However, we have a two-year-old and I'm currently pregnant with our second child and due on August 25th.

This was posted March 25th, by the way. When he started planning the bachelor party, I told him that planning something earlier in the summer would give him a higher chance of going for the full weekend. I originally framed it as not wanting to be stuck watching our toddler by myself

for a full weekend in my third trimester while he's out golfing, which was a mistake. I should

have framed it as not wanting him to go away for a weekend so close to my due date. I don't know. I think that

isn't a mistake at all. The way you phrased it the first time is completely fair and if he was

reasonable he'd probably say yeah, that makes sense to me and I'd pick an earlier date. Anyway,

let's carry on. They finally picked a date for the bachelor weekend. It's August the 8th, so I'll be

almost 38 weeks pregnant and considered full term. Technically, I'll be 38 weeks the day he plans to get

back, so about two weeks before my actual due date. The Bachelor party will be about two hours

away without traffic. On previous golf weekends, he's been terrible

about keeping his phone charged and it can be hard to get in touch with him. Also, while he doesn't

drink, he does smoke and he would most likely be smoking the whole weekend. Now he thinks that

as long as he gets someone to watch our toddler while he's gone, it's fine to go for the full weekend,

two to three nights. This makes me incredibly nervous. I'm willing to compromise and agree to an

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