you cannot see a couple who's gone through infidelity and tell why don't you start dating each other

why don't you start that is a brawl in the restaurant if you do that kind of stuff there's a place

for starting to date but not at the beginning of when you've been

betrayed. Betrayal is the most painful emotion known to man. But to the degree that the spouse

who's been betrayed can forgive, to that degree they can start rebuilding respect for their

spouse. And to the degree they rebuild respect for their spouse, they can start rebuilding trust.

And to the degree they rebuild trust, they can rebuild love.

So it goes forgiveness, respect, trust, and love.

There's no trust if you don't respect.

Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

I'm Ann Wilson.

And I'm Dave Wilson, and you can find us at FamilyLife Today.com.

This is Family life today.

So you remember the day.

We were called to one of our good friends' house because they just found out his wife had an affair. Oh, yeah. It's awful. And we met with them within hours of the discovery and it was just so dark. It was horrible.

And I just, you know, it just felt like there's no chance. Five kids. Yeah, and God saved the marriage.

And it's, we literally three days ago were at one of their son's wedding.

Isn't that good?

And, you know, we looked at each other and thought, what if they had chosen to divorce this whole day?

Would look different.

Totally different.

Oh, it would be very different so we've got

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