Hello everyone, Julie here for a quickie.

We've been hard at work creating some guides and tools to meet people where they are in their

dating journeys and give more tailored advice and support.

And in the process of doing this I stumbled across something I actually kind of forgot about.

And this was when I was in the thick of heartbreak two times and I must have read somewhere to write letters to my X not to actually send them but as a way to help with the whole letting go process and I was wondering has anyone else ever done this I really found it to be so instrumental at the time to one just to get it all out and then also to come to terms with the breakup

because in both instances I realized I was more with the the fact that I was back to being single which we all know that day

day is hard. So I actually liked finding these letters now. I'm gonna lie it

made me quite emotional. Having this written artifact of just showing how much growth has happened over the last couple years and how I actually got to where I wanted to be.

At the time it just felt so utterly hopeless when I was in the thick of it. So to see that it actually came true,

like hopefully that gives you hope that one day you can be writing these letters to your

X, following your eyes out at a Pete's coffee shop, which is a true story.

And then the next you can be reading these letters years later, bolling your eyes out at how far you've come.

So what's in the letters?

I'm clearly not going to read the entire thing because one, it's embarrassing, then two, you

probably don't care about all the nitty gritty details, or maybe you do because you're nosy.

But either way, I'm going to give you kind of the Cliff Notes version and you can

decide what goes into your own letter that works for you. So I actually had two

iterations of the letter during two different breakups. The first one was with my

X that I've talked about on this podcast many times, the one that you know I

truly thought was the one that spanned over five years on again off again. So in this letter I titled it

my acceptance and it started with this is me letting you go this is me accepting that we don't have a future together and then I

went into specifics also accepting the reasons we broke up that they almost

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