How do we make a list of all the people we have harmed and then become willing to make amends to them all?

Welcome to Episode 432 of The Recovery Show.

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This episode is for you. We are friends of family members of alcoholics and addicts who have

found a path to serenity and happiness. We who live or have lived with the seemingly hopeless

problem of addiction understand us perhaps few others can. So much depends on our own attitudes and we believe that changed attitudes can aid recovery.

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My name is Spencer.

I am your host today, and joining me today is Pat.

Welcome back to the recovery show, Pat.

Thank you, Spencer. We'll be using this section on step eight from the book, How Al-Anon

works for Families and Friends of Alcoholics. In the paperback edition, that's pages 57 to 59.

I know it does vary a little bit between editions. Step 8 made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

First paragraph, most of us come to Al-Anon with a distorted sense of responsibility.

At first, some of us are unable to name a single person we have harmed, feeling that we

have been the victims of other people's cruel or insensitive behavior rather than the perpetrators.

We're so focused on others that we miss the fact that our own behavior has not always been so

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