Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. One of the things I talk about often is relationship residue, things that we bring in from our previous love experiences that directly impact our relationship today.

And for many, we don't even realize that it's happening, right?

A lot of it is running underneath and that's why it's so

important to investigate explore dissect and dissolve relationship residue.

By the way, if you hear loud screeching noises in the background like someone is getting murdered, that is

coming from parrots in my front of the house. I'm in my garage so they're up in the

front of the house in these trees and sometimes I feel like Ace Ventura Pet Detective because there's

like a dozen parrots and two chickens and I just feel like I'm doing a podcast out of a pet shop. Anyway, so I talk about

loving without your past a lot and I want to talk about this because I think it's one of the common pitfalls that many of us, you know, we fall into that keeps the relationship stuck and both parties stunted.

So once you swim past the breakers, right?

Once you pass the honeymoon phase and, you know,

when shit gets real, right?

Because I think that that's when love starts

is when it gets hard, not in the beginning

where it's just dopamine shooting into your brain.

Of course, that feels amazing, but that's not love but that's not love that's lust that's

infatuation that's you know all the things that make make you feel good but

you're actually not building a relationship quite yet when When things get hard, when you start to

notice a contrast and the dirty socks in the floor and the difference in your love

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