feelings are not facts.

Feelings are chemical events.

And what happens with a feeling, your body, your brain, your body, your gut releases some

sort of hormone or neurotransmitter.

And the meaning behind what that chemical means depends on your memory and your current

mood and your current experience.

But if you're not aware of that,

then you sort of reattach the previous meaning the last time you felt that thing or the common

times that you felt that thing. And so what happens then is we begin to believe that every time

I feel a certain set of physiological things, that means the situation I'm currently in is the same as it was the first time I felt that.

Welcome to Family Life Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

I'm Ann Wilson.

And I'm Dave Wilson, and you can find us at family life today.com.

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I'll tell you what, when you go through something really hard, which I think we've gone through a few.

I think everybody has.

I mean, once you've gone through something, you're not naive anymore.

Not only are you not naive, but you become anxious that that thing will happen again.

Yeah, like the time you get a melanoma, removed from your arm and it, the scars from your

shoulder to your elbow.

And I wasn't there.

Husbands, listen up.

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