S19E10: The Settling Paradox

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 29 October 2024

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

We're so afraid of settling yet we settle for....situationships? We're chatting today about the difference of being picky and having standards – from the characteristics of the person we're dating to how they treat us. We're discussing where the fear of settling is rooted from, how our dating culture impacts our expectations (both in a good and bad way!) and why it is possible to find that one in a million partner without sacrificing yourself and needs in the process.

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Yui Shue and I'm Julie Kraft Chick. We're active daters turn dating insiders.
0:06.3	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.9	Welcome to Datable. Hello friends.
0:26.0	Welcome back to another episode of Datable.
0:29.0	You're in luck because it's just the two of us for this episode as we continue to explore this urgent
0:36.1	topic of the love crisis that we've been talking about for a few weeks now.
0:40.4	It's just a reminder what is the love crisis? Basically the state of
0:44.5	modern dating right now where people are literally throwing in the towel
0:49.7	on love because it's so frustrating they've become so negative about dating that it's like why even try because you could be
0:58.5	focusing on other parts of your life and love is just giving you a heartache.
1:02.8	Yeah, and a few weeks ago we touched on the expectation of love on demand.
1:07.6	If you're new to this or maybe you need a refresher.
1:10.4	We are going to spend a few of these episodes going through what we're calling the
1:15.2	traps of modern dating that are contributing to this love crisis. They're keeping
1:20.0	us trapped in this endless dating maze and something that we just want to get out of.
1:25.7	So all of this is in our upcoming book and of course the main part of how do we get out of this,
1:31.9	how do we get through these traps and out of the love crisis?
1:35.2	But we're kind of giving you a preview so by the time it comes out in January you're like,
1:40.9	yep, I get it conceptually, I'm ready to go. Let's do this.
1:45.0	So if you haven't pre-ordered yet, now's the perfect time because your future self will thank you.
1:51.0	By the time you read our book book it's all going to sound very
1:53.5	familiar but there will be solutions in the book that you can start putting into
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