S19E6: The Secret To Attraction w/ Mat Bogs

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 1 October 2024

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

We're not talking about what to wear or how to look, but rather how to elude that contagious energy that just attracts someone to you. And what better expert than Mat Bogs, who shares his own turning point and all the knowledge he's gained in his 20+ years of dating coaching. We're discussing the turn offs and turn ons that either kill attraction or spark it, how to understand what type of vibe you're sending on a date, and ways you can build attraction not just in the early stages – but for a lifetime.

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Yui Shoe and I'm Julie Kraftchik. We're active daters turn dating insiders.
0:06.3	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.9	Welcome to Datable. Hello friends.
0:20.0	Welcome back to another episode of Datable.
0:23.3	We want to hug you right now, but we can't.
0:26.2	We could.
0:26.7	We can give you an over the audio hug.
0:29.8	I don't know how that works.
0:30.9	Do you feel it?
0:31.9	I feel it. Energy. You know I feel like the whole shift because
0:36.5	you A and I are clearly in different locations. We do this over video, over Riverside, virtual recording, but it does feel like I'm with you.
0:45.8	When we actually meet other experts, it's like, oh, we're meeting, it's like, we're not really.
0:50.8	I think COVID really just like reshaped what meeting and virtual this meant. Yeah, we're still on the same
0:57.2	planet so I still feel your energetic being through the airways. I don't know. There's something there, but energy though is one of those I guess topics that recently got surfaced in dating.
1:13.0	Like we used to be about like how you dress and how you act and how you talk.
1:18.0	Now it's all about energy and vibe.
1:20.0	Like when we think about attraction, which is kind of the topic which is the topic not kind of topic for today
1:26.7	Energy is part of the attraction but I feel like it's so new to the equation that people don't think about it still. I would say it's
1:34.9	probably 80 percent. Like of course there's like a baseline of certain qualities
1:40.4	that you're looking for we all have lists, we all have something on there. We're not going to pretend like that doesn't exist.
1:48.0	But I do think that someone can have all the right things on paper. I mean this is the problem with dating apps right is you
1:54.4	see someone's profile they look good and then you meet them in person and there's no connection,
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