S25E13: How to Balance Independence and Intimacy in a Relationship

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space

Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 28 March 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Hey lady! As you continue to think deeply about how you want your life to look and feel, have you considered how much intimacy plays a part in your relationships? This week, Dr. Dom and Terri expound on the ways intimacy serves as the bedrock for fulfilling relationships of all stripes. Whether it’s platonic, familial, or romantic; intimacy can serve as the thread that brings depth and realness to your relationships. And, we’re not talking just talking about sex – Terri and Dr. Dom don’t just put the tip in with their insights, they go all the way to make sure you have an arsenal of tools to get you the relationship you desire.

Finding a level of interdependence, defined as partners recognizing and valuing the importance of the emotional bond they share while maintaining a solid sense of self within the relationship dynamic, may seem counterintuitive to building a healthy unit but it is in fact what keeps the spice in the relationship and the sense of self that resides in you.

Tap into the Aftershow for more tips and real-life examples of how to make your relationships thrive. Consent and healthy boundaries are a recipe for intimacy that will knock your socks off in more ways than one!

How to Build an Interdependent Relationship
1. Knowing what you like and what matters to you
2. Not being afraid to ask for what you want
3. Spend time with friends and family
4. Continue pursuing your personal goals
5. Be mindful of your values
6. Make time for hobbies and interests
7. Don't be afraid to say "no"
8. Don't keep yourself small or hidden to please others

Quote of the Day:
“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”
— Osho

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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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Transcript

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0:00.0	On this week's episode of cultivating her space,
0:04.6	we need to diversify our love, our connections, our happiness.
0:08.6	Yes, yes.
0:08.9	Because you just don't want to feel like you're alone, right?
0:12.2	And like you need one person to fill all these needs for you.
0:15.1	I think it's important for us to diversify that.
0:17.0	I have multiple places where we can get support, love, affection, and all that good stuff,
0:21.2	even if it's not in a sexual nature.
0:25.0	Hey lady, have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you?
0:30.7	Well, we do.
0:33.5	Welcome to cultivating her space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting and empowering women like you.
0:40.1	We're your host.
0:41.7	Dr. Dominique Broussard, an educator and psychologist.
0:45.1	And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker.
0:49.1	Join us every week for authentic conversations about everything from fibroids to fake friends as we create space
0:57.4	for black women to just be. Before we dive in, make sure you hit that follow button and leave us a
1:05.0	quick five-star review. Lady, we are black founded and black owned and your support will
1:10.0	help us reach even more women like
1:11.9	you. Now, let's get into this week's episode of Cultivating HerSpace. Hey lady, it's Dr. Dom here
1:21.4	from the Cultivating HerSpace podcast. Are you currently a resident of the state of California
1:27.3	in contemplating starting your therapy journey?
1:31.3	Well, if so, please reach out to me at Dr. Dominiquebroussar.com.
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