S25E7: Love vs. Loneliness: How to Know If You’re Settling or Building Something Real

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space

Education, Self-improvement

4.7 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 14 February 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Hey lady! How has cuffing season been treating you? Are you boo’d up and keeping cozy, or is your bed cold and it has you feeling a way? This week, Terri and Dr. Dom dive into the difference between being alone and loneliness and why the feelings of the latter may cause us to operate from a place of lack and find ourselves in less than desirable circumstances.

While it may be hard to go through life when you yearn for a relationship, there’s good reason to find the abundance around you so that desperation doesn’t rear its ugly head and you wind up with someone you normally wouldn’t give a second look. This means looking at who is in your life and why, and then listening to your internal voice to get an accurate assessment of if it’s the right relationship for you.

Taking stock of your relationships isn’t about keeping your heart in a safehouse far away from the possibility of being hurt. Instead, it empowers you to be honest about where you are in life and see if who you are dealing with aligns or not. When you operate from a place of loneliness it is entirely possible for you to settle for less than what you deserve, which is why you arm yourself with a gameplan to keep the blues away.

Want more tips for your toolkit? Head to the Aftershow where Dr. Dom and Terri offer seven tips to help you move from a point of loneliness to a place of personal power.

Quote of the Day:
"Until you get comfortable being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness."
– Mandy Hale

Goal Map Like a Pro Workbook
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

Where to find us:
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Website: cultivatingherspace.com

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0:00.0	On this week's episode of cultivating her space.
0:04.2	If you find that you were in a relationship where you feel lonely, that's a huge sign that it may be time to go.
0:18.0	Hey lady, have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you?
0:23.9	Well, we do.
0:26.6	Welcome to cultivating her space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting and empowering women like you.
0:33.2	We're your host.
0:34.9	Dr. Dominique Broussard, an educator and psychologist, and Terry Lomax, a techie and
0:40.1	transformational speaker. Join us every week for authentic conversations about everything from fibroids to fake friends,
0:49.0	as we create space for black women to just be.
0:59.2	Before we dive in, make sure you hit that follow button and leave us a quick five-star review.
1:04.5	Lady, we are black founded and black-owned, and your support will help us reach even more women like you.
1:06.0	Now, let's get into this week's episode of Cultivating HerSpace.
1:12.3	Hey lady, it's Dr. Dom here from the Cultivating HerSpace podcast.
1:17.0	Are you currently a resident of the state of California in contemplating starting your therapy journey?
1:24.4	Well, if so, please reach out to me at Dr. Dominique Broussard.com. That's D-R-D-O-M-I-N-I-Q-U-E-B-R-O-U-S-S-A-R-S-A-R-D.com to schedule a free 15-minute consultation.
1:45.0	I look forward to hearing from you.
1:48.5	All right, our quote of the day,
1:51.8	until you get comfortable being alone,
1:55.5	you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness.
2:01.2	That quote comes to us from Mandy Hale.
2:05.6	And I'm going to read this one more time for the folks in the back.
2:10.8	Until you get comfortable being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness.
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