S2E4: What Fresh Hell Is This?
Love Letters
The Boston Globe
4.6 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 12 March 2019
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Dating can feel like a second full-time job. You feel like you have to constantly check the apps, update your profiles, and swipe on new faces, lest you miss out on something. And that’s all before you actually go on any dates. In this episode, Meredith Goldstein looks at the epidemic of dating fatigue. She talks to comedian Lane Moore, the brains behind the show “Tinder Live” and the author of “How To Be Alone,” and hits the bar with Erin, the woman Love Letters is following all season. Email us at [email protected].
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| 0:00.0 | The class field trip was completely ruined by a middle-aged man on roller skates. |
| 0:07.0 | So we're at this bar in Boston. Picture it. Craft beer, a full carton of guacamole, games like cards against humanity. |
| 0:15.1 | I like the imagery of a middle-aged man on roller skates, but let's go as Viagra. |
| 0:20.9 | All right, Aaron wins. |
| 0:24.0 | Let me tell you why we're here. |
| 0:28.0 | From the Boston Globe and PRX, |
| 0:30.0 | this is Love Letters. |
| 0:32.0 | I'm Meredith Goldstein. If you'd asked me 10 years ago, what do most people write into your advice column about? |
| 0:47.7 | I would have said snooping. |
| 0:50.3 | Back in 2009, when I started the Love Letters column, I got a ton of letters about people breaking into each other's emails and texts, |
| 0:56.5 | mostly to seek out proof of cheating. |
| 0:58.5 | But now I have a totally different answer. |
| 1:00.5 | The most common problem I see in letters is dating fatigue. This feeling that |
| 1:05.6 | dating has become a miserable exhausting slog, kind of like a terrible job with the |
| 1:10.9 | worst hours and no time off. The epidemic of dating fatigue makes sense if you think about it. |
| 1:16.7 | It used to be that you could do online dating just a little. You'd make your profile and check your |
| 1:21.3 | account when you were at your computer, |
| 1:23.2 | which wasn't all the time. Now with dating apps always available on your phone, |
| 1:28.4 | you can date all day and all night. I bet some of you were swiping for dates right now. |
| 1:35.1 | Because if you stop, if you take a break, you feel like you're missing new |
| 1:39.2 | opportunities, new faces, and then you feel guilty that you're not doing enough. |
| 1:44.0 | You start telling yourself, oh that's why you're single, because you're lazy. |
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