Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life. Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye.

People who grow up poor often make it a priority as adults to secure their financial stability, cash flow, savings and retirement accounts in order to avoid living with the feeling of scarcity again.

Others moved around a lot as kids changing changing schools so frequently, they either grow up determined to buy a home and dig deep roots where they can stay for the rest of their lives, or they continue the nomadic lifestyle depending on whether their childhood experience

affected them positively or negatively.

When I was grown up, my parents' mood swings were so unpredictable.

I never knew if I was coming home to a warm hug or a violent beating,

so walking on eggshells was the norm.

This turned our home into an unstable and scary place, not a safe space.

So it's no surprise that as an adult I've been determined to make my home a sanctuary and to find

soulless, acceptance and peace with the people in my life. Feeling safe is a basic need, not a luxury.

Yet many of us spend years unaware of the fact that life without landmines is even an option.

I've spoken with people who spend more time at work than is necessary to avoid going

home because the office felt safer. One friend was so miserable in her marriage but too

scared to mention divorce, she enrolled in a master's program at a local university, not because she needed or wanted the degree, but because going to school meant she would spend hours at the library each night after working all day,

and she was hoping being gone so much would lead her husband to cheat on her and leave,

which is exactly what happened.

She got her masters and her divorce in the most roundabout way to regain that sense of safety.

Your home and your friendships, relationships, or marriage are to be your safe haven and happy place,

not another battle you have to fight.

It doesn't mean everything will always be perfect or that you need to escape at the first

sign of a disagreement, but if Home consistently causes you more stress than relief, then it isn't serving its primary purpose.

Some cultures even have rituals incorporated into everyday activities that honor the home as a shelter from the outside world,

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