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Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast Episode 929

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.76.3K Ratings

🗓️ 20 August 2024

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

A woman is starting up a new relationship. Her previous boyfriend was a dom who introduced her to kink. She loved it but found it all too contrived. How can she take the parts of Dom/sub dynamics she likes and leave the scripted parts behind? It used to take her soooooo long to come. But then she discovered suction toys, and blam! Her husband learned how to get her off orally, but then they divorced. Now she's back to square one and worries it will take another 6 years to train new lovers to get her off. How can she give them a crash course in how her body works? On the Magnum, a severe strain of Mpox is on the rise in Africa. Dan brings back the wise and calm Dr. Carlton to discuss this and other anal health issues. Dr. Carlton shares his handy, (if sacriligious) technique to open up for anal sex without poppers. And they spell out use of Truvada, Doxy Pep and other meds on the scene. If you use your butt for sex, you'll want to tune in. A single mother and breast cancer survivor needs a little cash. She would like to set up an OnlyFans account, but worries that the scars from her mastectomy will hinder her chances or attract unwanted fetishists. Should she do this? 206-302-2064 [email protected] Find Dr. Carlton: Instagram, Threads and Tik Tok @DoctorCarlton X: @Doctor_Carlton Podcast: Butt Honestly with all social handles @butthonestlypod This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. We’re partnering with NOCD to raise awareness about OCD. Imagine having unwanted thoughts about your relationship stuck in your head all day no matter how hard you try to make them go away. That’s OCD. Breaking the OCD cycle takes effective treatment. Go to NOCD.com/savage to learn more.

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Love cast at savage.

0:03.7

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary or if you're looking for sexual harmony

0:11.8

while that's sexual harmony.

0:13.0

Well, there's nothing you can't ask.

0:19.0

On the saddest lovecast.

0:22.0

How do we do it?

0:24.0

How do we do it? I got that question yesterday from a reader and then got it again at dinner

0:28.0

from a friend.

0:29.0

How do we do it?

0:31.0

How do we make it work? I mean Terry. Because not only are we, me and my husband, not only

0:38.0

are we open, something some people can't make work, not something everyone has to make work, it's not for everyone.

0:45.2

But not only are we open, we're Polly, and not only are we Polly, we are Kitchen Sink Polly.

0:51.6

The expression is actually Kitchen Table Poly defined by modern intimacy as a type of

0:57.1

polyamorous metamore arrangement in which all people involved can sit down at a kitchen table and spend time sharing a meal together or a cup of

1:06.2

coffee. I slipped up once on the show and called it Kitchen Sink Polly and people made fun of me but you know I think kitchen sink

1:14.4

poly actually captures the type of polyamorous arrangement we have here because we

1:19.6

don't just have the occasional cup of coffee at the same table together.

1:23.7

Me and my husband and his boyfriend, we live together.

1:27.2

Seems to me there's kitchen table poly occasionally get together for a cup of coffee and

1:32.0

then there's everything and anything

1:34.4

kitchen sink Polly where you live together like the three of us do. And when someone

1:39.6

asks me how we do it weirdly I always think of my mug. It's the cup I drink my tea out of every morning and

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