Savage Lovecast Episode 963

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 15 April 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

A chill married lesbian is a little annoyed to hear that her consistently straight friend, engaged to a man, has announced that she is pan. She is pan, but she plans to remain monogamous with her husband. What's more, she is throwing herself a coming-out-as-pan party. When the caller came out as lesbian, she got kicked out of the house. Is she an asshole to feel less than exhilarated by her friend's new sexual identity? Yikes! Hear the unpleasant tale of the woman who shut her boyfriend's son's dogs in a room for so long, that they did what dogs do when shut in a room all day. Oh, and as she was cleaning the mess, she saw that the 20 year-old son had a sex toy. On the Magnum, should you be stockpiling poppers? Dan brings on our favorite poppers expert, Adam Zmith, author of Deep Sniff: A History of Poppers and Queer Futures. He explains why gay men use them, a bit of their history, and what to do now that they're in the crosshairs of JFK Jr's FDA. A submissive woman mistakes the swoony feelings she experiences during sub space, for genuine emotional connection. But she doesn't want emotional connection. She just wants to have some tied-up fun. How can she stop her heart from getting all hot and bothered? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, father, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From poppers, to parenting, kissing to ghosting and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since days of old when magic ruled the air.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young and...
0:08.0	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.1	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.8	You guys, I have what I think is a good idea.
0:31.3	But before I share it, I want to say the protests on April 5th were so inspiring.
0:40.2	Emily Nussbaum, staff writer for the New Yorker,
0:44.8	said it best. People who've won Pulitzer Prizes for criticism often do say it best.
0:50.1	Massive, visible, varied, passionate national protests are the main way to make it crystal clear how many people care and are pissed and are paying attention.
0:54.8	Nussbaum posted to blue sky after the protests.
0:58.1	Also, just on a basic emotional level, Nussbaum continues,
1:01.6	when you're feeling numb and cynical from doom scrolling and being deluged with scary and terrible news,
1:07.7	it's satisfying to go for a long walk, laugh at funny signs, and have friendly conversations
1:13.3	with strangers. I couldn't join everyone in Seattle for the long walk on April 5th because I'm
1:18.7	out of the country. I'm on my way to Berlin to host the hump film festival there, but I could feel
1:24.0	the energy all the way over here. And the pictures of the signs, uh, giving me life
1:30.6	I especially loved and I appreciate everyone who sent pictures of people waving ITMFA signs.
1:36.8	Okay. So here's the thing I wanted to share that I'm so excited to share. I have an idea.
1:44.0	And I think it's a good one. It's a phrase. I'm a phrase maker,
1:48.3	an OED endorsed phrase maker. So I wanted to toss this out there. I wanted to see what all of you think.
1:55.6	Because if you, my listeners, like this idea too, we might be able to make it happen together like we made
2:02.1	pegging happen together and monogamish and it gets better in ITMFA and GGG. So I was listening to
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