Simone Gorrindo: The Cost of Love and Duty

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

Everything Happens Studios

Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture

4.8 • 4.7K Ratings

🗓️ 8 April 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

What happens when the person you love is called to something that takes them away? Again and again and again. Journalist Simone Gorrindo never expected to become a military wife. Raised in a liberal anti-war family, she had her whole life mapped out–until she fell in love. And love, as it turns out, isn’t just about saying yes. Sometimes it asks for waiting. For loneliness. For a life built around someone else’s calling. For making a home inside a world you never planned for.

In this episode, Kate and Simone talk about:

What it means to build a life that constantly asks for more—more patience, more sacrifice, more resilience than you ever thought you had.
When your partner’s job becomes an identity—and you’re expected to adapt.
The loneliness of waiting, the friendships that save us, and the pressure to be “strong.”

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0:00.0	Hi, is this an okay time?
0:03.2	It's your girl Dylan Mulvaney, and I am inviting you to my weekly cocktail party and my brand new podcast, The Dylan Hour, brought to you by Lemonada Media.
0:12.3	Life is stressful and there is so much darkness in the world, I think we could all use a little bit of trans joy.
0:18.0	So join me every week as I interview some of my favorite A-list celebrity friends
0:22.4	and gurus and, of course, the dolls, while we sip and spill the scalding hot tea. So put your
0:28.4	worries aside and join me at the Dillon Hour. You can listen on Apple, YouTube, or wherever you get
0:33.2	your podcasts. Love you. Hi, everyone. I'm David DeCovny. Join me on my podcast, Fail Better, where we use failure
0:42.2	as a lens to reflect on the past and analyze the current moment. I speak with makers and
0:47.5	performers like Rob Lowe, Rosie O'Donnell, and Kenya Barris, as well as thinkers like
0:52.3	Kara Swisher and Nate Silver, to understand how both
0:55.6	personal setbacks and larger forces impact our world. Listen to fail better, wherever you get your
1:01.6	podcasts.
1:06.6	What happens when the person you love changes in a way that you never expected?
1:12.2	Or when their dream or career asks you to give up on the life you've built for one you would never have chosen?
1:20.7	This is Everything Happens, and I'm Kate Bowler.
1:24.7	Friends, today's conversation is one of those that stays with you, the kind that
1:30.2	makes you reconsider the quiet, unseen sacrifices that shape a life. Simone Garindo is here with me.
1:39.2	She brings us in to a world that many of us have never considered the world of military spouses. In her
1:47.0	breathtaking memoir, The Wives, seriously, our whole team passed this book around like candy.
1:53.9	This was the great hot book around the Everything Happens project, once again, called The Wives.
2:00.7	Simone is this beautiful author, and she shares what it means to leave behind the life that she
2:05.6	built for the life her husband chose.
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