Do you feel like you have a heightened startle response or a really big sound sensitivity?

Because you've either experienced trauma, narcissistic abuse.

Maybe you've experienced something and all of a sudden you feel like you can't listen to music

or you just have this aversion to sound.

If that sounds like you, you need to listen to today's episode on my trauma and narcissism redefined podcast because I'm going to explain

what happens in the biology within us why we end up having a sound sensitivity when we've

experienced trauma and narcissism.

Hi everybody, my name is Caroline Strawson and I'm here to help and support you through,

let's face it, trauma and narcissism, but redefining it. So not looking at it like the DSM,

which is the diagnostic statistical manual of mental disorders, where we're really giving labels to very often symptoms of trauma. I look at this through an internal family systems lens, looking at it from a nervous system perspective. So we actually see people as people as human beings,

whether that be flawed, which to them is just an adaptive response. And that's a lot of the work

that I do. A lot of the work that I do is there are no bad parts of you. You have protected

responses, including narcissists, because they are projecting outwardly because the alternative to go inward, feels too painful to that individual.

Now, of course, these protective parts and responses can be very, very destructive externally.

But the key here is we can't change anybody else, but what we can change is how we receive somebody else's protective

responses and what our interpretation of that is. So in today's episode, I want to talk to you

about sound sensitivity. A, because it's very relatable to myself and this is what happened to me.

And also, whenever I tell people this, they always have these lightball

moments of, that makes so much sense now. I can see that. Now, when I was in a relationship with my

ex-husband, who was a covert narcissist, I stopped listening to music. I used to love listening

to music at the start of our relationship and I had an array of

playlist and I mean this shows how long ago it was you know initially it was like the

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