The Body Language Expert: Stop Using This, It’s Making People Dislike You, So Are These Subtle Mistakes! Your Resting Face Matters & How To Fix It!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 9 December 2024

⏱️ 165 minutes

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What if you were told that there is a secret language that makes up 98% of your communication? Impacting your work, socialising, and romantic life Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’. In this conversation, Vanessa and Steven discuss topics such as, why your resting face matters, the 3 science-backed tricks for confidence, the best gestures for building trust, and how to spot a liar fast. 00:00 Intro 01:45 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success 03:16 I'm a Recovered Awkward Person 05:07 What's an Ambivert? 07:00 One Word That Can Change the Way People Think 09:11 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In 12:13 The Resting B*tch Face Effect 15:33 Do Not Fake Smile! 18:00 The 97 Cues to Be Warm and Competent 21:15 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation 24:09 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular 28:06 Message People Telling Them This... 32:53 The Luck Experiment 34:36 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious 41:26 The Importance of Hand Gestures 43:10 Hand Tricks to Be Liked 53:46 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic 56:19 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent 58:16 The Power Cues 1:07:26 How to Spot a Liar 1:14:54 If You've Been Told You're Intimidating, Do This 1:18:09 Don't Let Anyone Use This With You 1:21:16 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone 1:33:52 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone... 1:38:34 How to Greet Someone 1:49:13 How to Master Messaging 1:54:12 Personal Branding 1:58:32 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips 2:03:58 Body Language and Brain Connection 2:06:05 Are You Awkward? Watch This 2:09:45 How to Get Someone to Approach You 2:14:39 How to Make Friends as an Adult 2:18:28 AirPods Are Killing Friendships 2:21:48 Ads 2:22:39 How to Spot a Liar (Repeat Topic) 2:28:36 Toxic Relationships 2:31:06 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger 2:35:32 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge Follow Vanessa: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/cm3A7r1O6Ob Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/IVgMiQ3O6Ob Science of People - https://g2ul0.app.link/5LJ8mO5O6Ob You can access the images mentioned, here: https://linktr.ee/diaryofaceostudies You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/HjfkOgZO6Ob Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Your brain is 12.5 times more likely to believe my gesture over my words.
0:04.6	And that's because it is very hard to lie with our gestures.
0:07.0	For example, you want to do a little experiment with me?
0:08.3	Sure.
0:08.6	Okay, I want you to say five, but hold up the number three.
0:12.4	Five.
0:13.2	Hard, right?
0:13.8	Yeah, I had to think about them separately.
0:15.5	This is why liars use less gestures.
0:17.8	But known tool like that is critical for you're trying to set yourself up for success.
0:21.3	And we're going to go through all of them.
0:22.5	Oh, yeah.
0:23.6	Vanessa Van Edwards is a behavioral investigator, who science-backed research from body language
0:27.7	and micro-expressions to vocal tones and first impressions has revolutionized the way we
0:31.5	build confidence and create more authentic relationships in every social and professional
0:34.7	interaction.
0:35.4	I'm a recovering awkward person,. I thought that charisma was genetic and I didn't know how to have conversations.
0:40.3	I didn't even know how to have friends.
0:42.0	And then I discovered that highly successful people speak a hidden language.
0:45.7	And that is the language of cues.
0:47.3	It's directly from the research.
0:48.5	They know that blueprints will talk to anyone.
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