About eight weeks ago, I got an email from somebody who said, I read your boy Christ's book.

It was really helpful to me. As a result of that, I did not kill myself and I did not do the mass

shooting I was planning to do. I wrote a 52 page manifesto about the mass shooting I was planning,

but I was brought up by a mom and I was brought up by two aunts and a grandmother and none of them

had any men in their lives. And I had no man in my life. He hated his mom and by extension,

he hated all women. And so he then ended up getting involved with 4chan and HN, which are basically

neo-fascist type of groups. In HN, two of those people in HN have already committed major

mass shootings. And I said, well, what attracted you to 4chan and HN? He said, now in retrospect,

after I read the boy Christ is what I'm seeing is that I had no structure, I had no father figure,

I had no sense of purpose. No one, look at this. You saved lives, Lauren. I mean, it's tragic that

it has come to that where your book about the Christ among boys might have spoken to someone and

kept them from doing something terrible. One of the things that I've found about angry men or

angry women in the couples communication workshop, anger is vulnerability's mask.

Most every time you see somebody that is angry, you can ask a different question, how are they hurt?

What is their vulnerability? And if you ask that question, you begin to listen to their pain.

And when you listen to their pain, don't argue with them about their pain, but just let them know

what you hear that they said. And you will see an enormous reduction in their anger. That's the way

to deal with angry people, not by making them into horrible human beings that you hate, because hate,

net by hate only increases hate.

This week, on forward, the author of The Boy Crisis, why are boys are struggling and what we can

do about it? Dr. Warren Farrell.

It is my pleasure to welcome to the podcast, the author of The Boy Crisis, why are boys

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