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🗓️ 23 October 2024
⏱️ 65 minutes
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The Buddhist case — and toolkit — for “don’t-know mind.”
For this episode, Executive Producer DJ Cashmere interviewed a trio of brilliant Dharma teachers to get their advice about how to handle being wrong. This is the third in a series of 'correspondent' episodes, in which DJ identifies a pain point in his life and meditation practice, then goes out into the world to report on the best ways to address it.
Kaira Jewel Lingo is a former nun in the Plum Village tradition started by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. Vinny Ferraro teaches at the Insight Meditation Society and Spirit Rock, and also in prisons. Matthew Brensilver teaches at many of the same retreat centers, and spent many years working in the field of addiction pharmacotherapy.
*Matthew’s Dharma talk on Knowing And Not-Knowing
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Want to study and practice with today's guests? Please check out these Spirit Rock offerings:
Matthew Brensilver, Buddhist Psychology Training (Begins in January)
Vinny Ferraro: A Year to Live; Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully (Begins in January)
Kaira Jewel Lingo: Healing Our Way Home (Oct. 20); Insight Meditation Retreat (April 9-16; opens Dec. 11)
All 10% Happier listeners receive a discount code for our December Insight Retreat (Dec. 8-18) with the code TENPERCENT
& if you'd like to study with these guests on the East Coast, check out these retreats at the Insight Meditation Society:
Kaira Jewel Lingo, Strength to Love: Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King: Jr. (Jan 17 - Jan 20), and Return to Wholeness: Opening to Wisdom & Love (Mar 23 - Mar 29)
Vinny Ferraro, Peace in Presence: A Four-Night Retreat for All (Jan 31 - Feb 4)
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Also, the teachers’ sites:
Vinny Ferraro's Course, A Year To Live
https://www.matthewbrensilver.org/
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0:00.0 | This is the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. |
0:07.5 | Hey, hey, how we doing, everybody? In my opinion, open-mindedness or intellectual humility is not valued nearly as highly as it should be in our culture. |
0:30.6 | Look around you. We seem to reward people for conviction, even when they're dead wrong. And when I hear people talk about the aspects of their |
0:38.4 | personality that they want to improve, usually it has to do with anxiety or addiction or |
0:43.6 | self-compassion or motivation. Rarely do I ever hear anybody embracing the aspiration to reduce |
0:49.8 | their clinging to their views and opinions. But the case for this is super strong. |
0:55.8 | Open-mindedness has been shown to reduce depression and anxiety and increase life satisfaction. |
1:01.0 | It can also mitigate conflict and create more highly functioning teams that produce better ideas. |
1:07.1 | Studies have shown that curiosity and openness are the key to both successful startups and American presidencies. |
1:15.5 | The Buddhists have been making the case for open-mindedness, or what the Zen people call don't-know mind, for millennia. |
1:23.7 | So today we've got a trio of meditation maestroes who are going to talk about the benefits of |
1:28.0 | acknowledging when you're wrong and the skill of developing a mind that does not grasp so |
1:33.3 | tightly at your opinions. We will also talk about whether openness and decisiveness can coexist, |
1:40.1 | which is a tricky question. This is the third in a special series of episodes we're doing where my |
1:45.8 | executive producer, DJ Kashmir, identifies an issue in his own life, in this case, his struggles |
1:51.7 | with being wrong, and then he goes out and talks to a bunch of teachers about how to deal with it. |
1:56.4 | If you missed the prior two episodes with DJ about how to handle anger and what to do when other people |
2:02.5 | are pissed at you. We will put links in the show notes here. So the structure of this episode is a |
2:07.9 | little bit different than our usual fare. You're going to hear me in conversation with DJ, |
2:12.2 | who is then going to play clips of his conversations with the teachers. Those teachers are Kyra Jewelingo, a former nun in the |
2:20.5 | plum village tradition started by the Zen master Tikna Han, Vinnie Ferraro, who teaches at the |
2:26.4 | Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and also in prisons, and Matthew Brentsilver, who teaches |
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