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🗓️ 31 May 2023
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Domestic burnout is real. When asked about the division of labor at home, moms always say they do more than their partners. When dads are asked the same question they say the work is shared equally. Why such a disconnect? Join Caitlin as she talks to Eve Rodsky, an expert in the gendered division of labor, to break down the invisible labor of motherhood. "Invisible labor" is all the work someone does that goes unseen or unacknowledged by others.
As a graduate of Harvard Law, Eve Rodsky envisioned smashing the glass ceiling, solving the world's problems, and doing it all. But a decade into her ambitious professional career and with a couple of kids in tow, the only thing she was smashing were peas for her toddler. Eve's groundbreaking book Fairplay and documentary film by the same name have launched a movement to rebalance domestic life and make the invisible work of women visible. The path to relieving this burden starts by understanding invisible labor for what it is and then making little adjustments in your family system. So, if a to-do list is running through your mind at all hours and you feel you're carrying the mental/physical load of your family, then this episode is for you.
Eve Rodsky: @everodsky
Explore the Fair Play movement and card game: www.fairplaylife.com
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0:00.0 | I like to say in fair play, right? We've conditioned women to treat their time like it's infinite like sand. |
0:06.2 | And we've conditioned men and society to treat men's time as if it's finite like diamonds. |
0:11.9 | And if you don't believe me, health systems for young mothers, for new mothers are telling women that breastfeeding is free. |
0:17.6 | When it's 1,800 hours a year, it's a full-time job. If you don't believe me, |
0:22.1 | just watch what happens when women enter male professions. Salaries automatically come down. Since birth, |
0:28.4 | women have heard these messages that our time is less valuable. And so we internalize those messages. |
0:32.7 | And we say to ourselves, my job is more flexible. So I should be the one picking up our child from school or taking the step back. We say to ourselves, my job is more flexible. So I should be the one picking up our child from school |
0:38.3 | or taking the step back. We say to ourselves, in the time it takes me to tell him, |
0:43.4 | her, they, what to do. I should do it myself. So all I can tell you, Caitlin, is we're not |
0:47.5 | Albert Einstein, right? We can't fuck with the space time continuum. That fundamental unfairness |
0:51.9 | is what has to change. My time is is diamonds and that's what I care about |
0:56.1 | that's the boundary we're talking about today ready to rock and roll yes let's rock and roll |
1:04.2 | all right let's fucking blow the doors off this thing even what's up everybody welcome back to the podcast today Eve. |
1:13.0 | What's up everybody? |
1:14.5 | Welcome back to the podcast. |
1:18.7 | Today I have somebody who's just an amazing woman. |
1:20.1 | Her name is Eve Rodsky. If you are not following her on Instagram or you haven't read one of her books or seen |
1:24.8 | her documentary called Fairplay, you need to. Eve is educated with her |
1:30.7 | VA at the University of Michigan. She has her JD from Harvard Law School. So she is no fucking |
1:36.4 | slouch in the academic category here. She worked for a long time in the corporate world and |
1:42.7 | has shifted her life and has become, you know, a voice |
1:46.7 | and a conversation starter around changing the script for women in recognizing how unequal |
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