The Joy of Saying No with Natalie Lue

Hacking Your ADHD

William Curb

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 702 Ratings

🗓️ 20 March 2023

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Hey team, this week I’m talking with Natalie Lue about her book, The Joy of Saying No. Natalie is the author of the popular relationship and self-esteem blog Baggage Reclaim, as well as the host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast.

With ADHD, we can often end up as people-pleasers, always putting other people’s needs above our own. And while being helpful is a great trait, we also need to make sure that we’re taking time for ourselves as well.

In our conversation today, Natalie and I discuss how to get out of people pleasing and work on setting up boundaries to help keep us on track with what we really want to be doing.

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This Episode's Top Tips

People pleasing is about suppressing one's needs, desires, expectations, feelings, and opinions to prioritize others' needs and avoid negative consequences.
By people pleasing, we create unspoken contracts, and this can lead to frustration when the other party does not fulfill their end. We are often dropping hints instead of being direct about our needs because of our fear of rejection or negative consequences.
While it can be hard to say no, it is vital that we are using our no to help us set boundaries that will help us curtail our people-pleasing and allow to prioritize our own well-being.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to Hacking Your ADHD, part the ADHD Rewired Podcast Network.
0:09.0	I'm your host, William Kerb, and I have ADHD.
0:12.0	On this podcast, I dig into the tools, tactics, and best practices to help you work with your ADHD brain.
0:19.0	Hey team, this week I'm talking with Natalie Liu about her book, The Joy of Saying No.
0:25.8	Natalie is the author of the popular relationship and self-esteem blog, Baggage Reclaim,
0:30.2	as well as the host of the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast.
0:33.8	With ADHD, we can often end up as people-pleasers, always putting other people's needs above our own.
0:40.0	And while being helpful is a great trait, we also need to make sure we're taking time for ourselves as well.
0:45.1	In our conversation today, Natalie and I discuss how to work on getting out of people pleasing
0:49.0	and work on setting up boundaries to help keep us on track for what we really want to be doing.
0:55.4	If you'd like to follow along on the show notes page, you can find that at Hacking Your
0:59.1	ADHD.com slash 136.
1:04.7	This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. I started taking AG1 because it's hard to make
1:10.6	sure that I'm getting in all
1:11.7	the nutrition I need every day. My ADHD can make it hard for me to remember that I need to
1:16.0	eat my meals, let alone making sure that those meals are healthy. With AG1, I have the ultimate
1:21.0	daily nutritional insurance. One scoop of AG1 has 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, whole-food
1:26.9	stores, ingredients,
1:27.9	probiotics, and adaptogens to help me start my day right.
1:31.4	It doesn't matter how tired I feel.
1:32.9	I know I can at least do that in the morning.
1:34.8	I love how easy it is to mix in, and that has made it a staple of my morning routine,
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