Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical and

with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because self-health

doesn't have to be so complicated.

Hey real quick before we get to today's episode I want to remind you to check out my new book, Single on Purpose,

Part Memoir from all my Single Hood journeys, but also Real Life Stories from Clients.

I think you will find it entertaining and also helpful, not just if you're single single but also if you're in a relationship

because this book is not an anti-relationship book it's a pro-relationship with yourself.

Connect to yourself first check out single-on-purpose it is time to give singlehood a cape because it's

been vilified for so long I don't know about you but as I get older I'm really

focusing on the little things in my life. For example, strong Q-tips,

Q-tips with, and I'm not joking, I know it sounds ridiculous, but have you used a Q-tip that's flimsy like one of those generic

You know I don't know CVS or write-A-Q tips

Where you put it in your ear and the whole Q-tip just folds in half, right?

So a strong Q-tip, can I just say first of all,

and I wonder if this has anything to do with it

When I was growing up being Korean they have these little

That they look like miniature spoons and they clean their ears out.

Koreans do.

I shouldn't say they, I should say we, I'm Korean, so we.

And as a kid, my dad used to let me sit in his lap or not sit late, put my head in his lap and he would take this

little wooden spoon and clean my ear out and I know, I know that sounds gross but it was it was so it felt so good and I think part of it is

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