Validation: The Skill That Changes Everything with Dr. Caroline Fleck

Raising Good Humans

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🗓️ 28 February 2025

⏱️ 63 minutes

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In this episode we sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Caroline Fleck to talk about the power of validation—what it really means, why it’s so important, and how we can use it to strengthen our relationships with our kids, others, and even ourselves. Dr. Caroline Fleck breaks down the science behind validation, shares practical tools from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and clears up common misconceptions—like how to validate without reinforcing bad behavior. She also opens up about her own deeply personal experience with validation and repair in parenting.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:09.8	Welcome to Raising Good Humans podcast. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman, and I love today's episode.
0:18.2	It is with Dr. Caroline Fleck. She's a psychologist, an adjunct clinical instructor
0:23.2	at Stanford. What I am so excited to share is that she's an expert in evidence-based treatments.
0:30.8	In particular, the one that we're talking about today is what inspired her new book validation.
0:37.1	And she took this concept that has been around for decades in psychology, used by therapists,
0:45.4	helping so many people.
0:48.0	And she's created this fantastic guidebook for just everyday better relationships, particularly better relationships with your
0:58.5	kids. This whole episode was super powerful. And I think you can take away such concrete
1:06.2	strategies. So I'm thrilled to have a listen. And if you enjoy this episode, please write a review.
1:14.3	You can go to write to Apple Podcasts, give it a five-star rating, just say a little something
1:18.2	about it that you liked so that we can get this out into the world and also so that I get
1:24.4	information about what resonates with you.
1:31.1	And of course, as always, you can follow me on Instagram at Raising Good Humans Podcast. You can get my substack. It's free, Dr. Elisa Pressman.
1:36.5	Substack.com. There is a monthly Zoom group that's membership only. It's $4.99 a month. So it's pretty good. And we just do
1:48.9	Q&A in person, but on Zoom, live once a month. And this week, my book, The Five Principles of Parenting, Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans,
2:04.4	is out on paperback. So if you were like, oh, I love this book, but I'd like to have a small
2:10.9	and lighter copy, go grab it or get it as a gift or, you know, write a little review in Amazon if you have it
2:19.3	already and you liked it. It's super helpful and means so much. And it was a New York Times bestseller
2:24.7	very much because of all of you. And so I have so much gratitude for the support. And I hope
2:31.9	you have a wonderful week. Okay. So let me tell you why I'm so excited
2:35.7	about your book in case you wanted another person to be excited about your book. I feel like,
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