What Exactly Is A Narcissist?

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 21 September 2021

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

Today, I want to talk about a subject that divides the trauma, counselling, and psychology world: the label of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). I'll share my opinion on the challenges and dangers of labelling NPD. We’ll talk about and compare three different approaches - the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), the Internal Family System approach, and my own, Narcissistic Trauma Informed approach.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why I consider over 35 traits in order to recognise NPD and not only 9 like the DSM

- Why labelling and medicalising NPD almost feels like excusing the narcissistic behaviour

- Why we consider narcissistic traits as an umbrella protecting self-worthiness wounds

In many cases of narcissistic abuse, I've witnessed how the victims tend to see narcissistic abuse as a reflection of them. What happens is that when we have self-worthiness wounds from our childhood, we believe the narcissist "is right" abusing us because we see ourselves as unworthy or unlovable. That is why I love to share this knowledge, because we must know that the abuse is happening TO US, not because of us.

Resources:

- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™ https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.5	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.4	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.
0:21.3	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.2	Hey there.
0:31.2	So in this episode, I want to talk to you about the label of narcissistic personality disorder through an internal family system's lens.
0:41.9	And the reason why I want to talk to you about that is because in the trauma world,
0:47.8	in the counseling world, psychology world, there seems to be a real big divide around narcissism. There are many people like myself who look at
1:00.0	research, evidence-based research, and can see that there are no cures for a narcissist.
1:08.3	Equally, there is medication that can help a narcissist, but that does not mean they can go on
1:15.1	and have a healthy relationship with somebody else. It just means that them living their life
1:20.6	may be marginally better. And this is the key here. And this is where I see, and I end up having
1:27.0	lots of debates with people about
1:28.4	this, because I'm always still, even with the narcissist, coming from a compassionate place in
1:35.2	understanding how they are brought about. So we know a narcissist isn't born. They are
1:43.2	created from their childhood. Now, a narcissist is abusive.
1:48.6	And what I'm about to share with you absolutely does not excuse their behavior. Absolutely
1:54.9	not. Abuse is abuse. And a narcissist is an abuser. And there is no getting away from that. But the reason why I liked
2:03.2	sharing educational pieces like this is so many people who have had contact with a narcissist
2:10.7	will receive the narcissist's behavior is in some way a reflection of them. And it isn't.
2:17.3	It absolutely isn't a reflection of you but if you've got
2:21.1	your own self-worthiness wins from your childhood you receive the narcissist behavior that in some way
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