So little Chloe wants to tie her own karate belt in the morning before practice,

but she doesn't really know how to do it and if you try to help her you're going to feel some venom.

But if you don't help her, you'll be late or she'll get even more frustrated.

So what do you do when you have a strong-willed child who wants to do things their

own way? That is what we are going to discuss on this episode of the

Calm Parenting Podcast. So welcome this is Kirk Martin. You can find us at

Celebrate calm.com if you need help reach out to our very strong-willed son

Casey, see a-se-y-E-Y at Celebrate Calm.

Come tell us about your family, ages of kids, what do you struggle with?

We get there together as a family, we talk about it.

We will reply back to you personally and usually very quickly because that's our mission to help you

because this is really hard stuff because you know why because you have this child too

you have a Chloe right and they're very determined they want to do things your strong-willed child wants to do things their own way and they believe that their way is the best and in that way your kids are actually mirroring you right and you're married, there are kids mirror their parents who want to do things their way

and believe that their way is the best because we have control issues and all kinds of other issues as parents.

So I'm going to give you a very helpful and cool way to handle your strong-willed, Chloe.

I'm going to give you a script to use that I love because these situations are going to happen a thousand times

throughout their childhood and so you kind of have to get this right or you're

going to have constant power struggles. So a few thoughts,

number one, this kind of blunt talk, I believe that parents create more power struggles than

your kids do. I believe you create those power struggles. No blame, no guilt.

Why? It's just because we have control issues. We want things done a certain way

because you're the authority figure and your way goes.

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