Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. So years ago, I recorded a podcast

episode about how I received a restitution letter in the mail from my then ex-husband after we were divorced.

If you've ever received an apology from your husband or ex-husband, and he seems like he's

showing remorse and you're wondering, like, what does this mean? Is this genuine? This is the

episode for you. It will also give you a snapshot of how I was feeling years ago.

I was still hurting and confused.

So, previous version of myself, take it away.

Just a quick recap.

Before we got married, he lied to me.

He was abusive, but I wasn't aware of it because he was manipulating me and lying and

presenting himself as somebody that he wasn't. Instead, I just thought he had like an anchor problem

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