Are women aware of the unique dynamics or challenges that men are facing that might actually affect their perception of desirability or data ability?

Hey y'all. I'm John Glyn Hill, and this is Explain It to Me. Your hotline for the questions that matter most to you.

We recently got a call from Rohan.

Hello.

He wants to know why people in their 20s and 30s are dating less.

Dating is obviously a challenging experience for everyone.

And one of the challenges that I had sort of noticed is that men are kind of experiencing

a harder time dating than women.

He's asking because he's been having his own trouble on the dating scene.

The state of dating, particularly for men, has been everywhere. Why are men in such

crisis? I mean, only 40% go to college. And women with degrees don't marry men who don't have

degrees. Sixty-six percent of young men between the ages of 18 and 29 are currently single,

but only 34% of young women in the same age bracket are single.

Producer Hadi Mawadhi knows about them firsthand.

Okay, Hadi, you were pretty excited about taking this question from Rohan.

Why was that?

Well, I mean, JQ, there are a few things. For starters, I'm a single guy in his mid-30s,

and landing a date has been harder than ever. You swipe, you send roses, you sneak into the DMs,

it's exhausting. You know, these dating apps really suck. And on top of all of that, I've heard so often that women have decided to quit dating. They've given up on men and I guess who can blame them. But our guy on this call, Rohan, I honestly had no idea if he was one of those dudes who's like Uber worried about birth rates or if he was simply struggling to get a date.

And here's what he told me when I gave him a call.

One thing that I think is not really kind of discussed enough is that there are a lot of terminology that is being thrown around, like this kind of popular rhetoric of

like become a high value individual. And so it's interesting now that like now there are metrics

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