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On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Why Making New Friends Feels Exhausting As An Adult (And How to Make It Easier)

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

iHeartPodcasts

Health & Fitness, Business, Mental Health

4.828.5K Ratings

🗓️ 11 April 2025

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Do you find it hard to make new friends lately?

Have your friendships changed as you've gotten older?

Why does making new friends as an adult feel like running a marathon with no finish line? Today, Jay  takes us on a thoughtful journey into the world of adult friendships — where connections aren’t forged on playgrounds or dorm rooms anymore, but instead in between meetings, family commitments, and the weight of life’s expectations.

Jay peels back the layers of why forming new bonds can feel so exhausting as we grow older. He reveals how our changing priorities, unhealed wounds, and limited energy all shape how — and with whom — we connect. With warmth and wisdom, he invites us to explore what true friendship really looks like in adulthood, and why it’s less about quantity and more about alignment, presence, and purpose.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Let Go of Friendships That No Longer Serve You

How to Stop Forcing Deep Bonds Too Quickly

How to Approach Friendship with Curiosity Instead of Expectation

How to Stay Open to New Relationships at Any Age

How to Cultivate Meaningful Conversations that Matter

Friendships don’t have to be instant to be real. Trust that the right connections will meet you when you show up as your authentic self. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:39 This Is The Core Traits Of Real Friends

05:55 Why Making Friends Gets Exhausting As We Age?

09:53 Age Makes You More Doubtful

13:01 With Age, You Become More Selective

17:28 Why Do We Do Things More When There’s Less Friction? 

20:38 Be Honest And Tell The People You Want To Build Friendship With

23:58 Find Your Person at Work And Invest In Genuine Friendship

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Transcript

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My gente

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Hermosa,

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Wilmer Valderrama.

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I'm

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Fredi Rodriguez,

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host of the new

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podcast,

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Dos Amigos.

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In this series,

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we candidly

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reflect on our

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careers,

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life,

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art, and

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everything in

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between.

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And each

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episode emanates

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from our

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very own

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Speak Easy,

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and it

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