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How to Be a Better Human

Why you should start thinking about death (w/ Alua Arthur)

How to Be a Better Human

TED

Self-improvement, Education

4.21.3K Ratings

🗓️ 22 January 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

There’s a saying about two things that are inevitable in this world, and Alua Arthur wants to help you think about one of them with less fear. No, she’s not a tax professional – she’s a death doula, a person who supports dying people and their loved ones. A former lawyer, Alua shares what we can all learn when we purposefully think about the end of life, whether that is our own or someone else’s. From finding joy in our everyday lives to navigating the emotional, legal, and spiritual decisions that arise around, Alua’s wisdom will inspire you pursue to live, and “go”, with grace. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts

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0:00.0

Ted Audio Collective.

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Audio Collective.

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You're listening to How to Bea Bea Better Human.

0:08.0

I'm your host Chris Duffy,

0:12.0

and this is the first episode of season four of our

0:14.4

podcast. Thank you so much for listening. We are really excited to be back.

0:18.9

On today's episode we're going to be talking about an experience that every single

0:22.3

human being on the planet is going to experience,

0:25.0

but one that we often avoid acknowledging or discussing openly.

0:30.0

I'm talking about death.

0:32.0

One of the first times I ever really contemplated death was when I was a little

0:35.3

kid and my pet hermit crab, named Krabby, died. I had unfortunately decided without my parents

0:42.0

knowing it that I was going to bring

0:43.2

Krabby along on a trip that we were taking to the beach but when we got to the

0:46.9

parking lot I got really excited about the beach and I forgot that I had brought

0:51.4

Krabby in the car and so when we got back after a long day at the beach

0:55.9

the car had been really hot and Krabby melted he'd melted right into the floor mat it was

1:00.4

disgusting and horrific not a good way to go. I'll feel guilty about that for the rest of my life

1:06.0

Krabby if you can hear me. I am so sorry now I think we can all agree that none of us want to go out like crappy. But how do we actually want to go? All kidding aside,

1:17.1

refusing to think about our plan for death just makes it less likely that things at the end of our lives

1:22.0

will go the way we want them to.

1:24.1

And of course we can never have complete control over the circumstances, but today's guest

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