121: Break Ups: Why You Keep Getting Pulled Back In—and How to Finally Move On With Kendra Allen

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 31 January 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Why is it so damn hard to stop thinking about an ex? In this episode, Sabrina sits down with breakup coach Kendra Allen to get real about the obsessive thoughts, shame, and emotional spirals that keep you stuck. They break down why no contact isn’t just a rule—it’s a lifeline for breaking toxic thought loops and reducing anxiety.

You’ll learn why missing someone doesn’t mean they’re right for you, how to process resentment when they move on first (without doom-scrolling their socials), and why some breakup questions will never be answered—but that’s okay. Plus, Kendra shares her go-to strategy for letting go of anger (hint: it involves a “screw you” letter).

If you’re ready to stop waiting for time to heal you and actually move forward, hit play. 🚀

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is
0:06.8	Sabrina Zohar and I am your host. Welcome back, babes. We are almost a Valentine's Day and you
0:13.6	know what that means. We are coming in hot and strong and I am going to give you the best of the best.
0:18.7	And this week we have Kendra, the breakup bestie.
0:21.0	I love Kendra.
0:22.4	Such a fun episode.
0:23.6	And in the vein of keeping the intro short, I'm not going to give away too much of what we talk about, besides the fact that we're going to help you get over the breakup.
0:30.4	Guys, you know, as always, if you need more support, there's the breakup course with me and Britt Frank.
0:33.8	There's the foundation course, there's the nervous system course. Masha and I help you guys with the pain points of the nervous system, how to regulate. Everything you need is going to be in the
0:40.8	link in show notes. Thank you to our supporters. Please, please, don't forget to show them some love.
0:46.0	And as always, please, rate and review the show with fucking kindness, please. It's the only thing I will say. You can say whatever you want, but there's a way to say it.
0:54.7	And please just share it with a friend.
0:55.9	It means the world, and it really is the only way we can grow.
0:59.2	So, you know what?
0:59.9	Without further ado, let's just get right on into it, shall we?
1:15.9	Ooh. Well, hello, Kendra. Hello. I'm so excited to have you in studio. Welcome to the Sabrina Zohar Show. Thank you for having me.
1:21.1	Of course. Now, before we get started, because I'm super excited to have you, I know that you are the breakup bestie, right? It's in the handle. It's in the name. And it's like, we are going to take full advantage of that. But the reason I wanted
1:31.0	to really have you come today wasn't so that we could talk about the same shit, right? It's like,
1:34.6	I think we all see out there of like, you know, we can either villainize our X or doom scroll or, you know, time heals all wounds. And it's like, doesn't actually. It's like what you do with the time that actually matters. So today I'm really excited because I wanted us to talk about
1:47.5	not just breakups, right? Because I think for anybody that's dealing with that right now,
1:51.9	you're already done with it. So now we could talk about really what comes after it. And for
1:55.9	anybody that is listening that may not be in a breakup right now, I also want to encourage everybody that there's
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