122: Are You Attached or Actually Connected? How To Avoid the Dating Trap You Don’t See Coming

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 7 February 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who’s hot and cold, questioning every text, and feeling anxious when they pull away? That’s not connection—it’s attachment. In this episode Sabrina breaks down the key differences between attachment and genuine connection in dating.

You’ll learn why attachment is rooted in fear and the need for validation, while real connection thrives on authenticity and emotional safety. Discover how inconsistent communication triggers dopamine-driven obsession, and why the people who leave you spiraling aren’t the ones you’re truly connected to.

Sabrina shares actionable strategies to shift from anxious attachment to grounded self-trust. Instead of overanalyzing or chasing closure, you’ll learn how to self-soothe, focus on your own needs, and build connections based on consistency—not intensity.

Press play to reclaim your peace, recognize the red flags of attachment, and start dating from a place of self-worth. This episode is your guide to breaking free from the cycle of obsession and finding real, lasting connection.

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello, welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Happy Fab, babes.
0:11.3	Hoy, is it me or is time just going a lot quicker than I'd like it to? And the years start coming and they don't stop coming in the fucking great words of Smash Mouth. I'm so stoked to be here with you guys.
0:21.9	Today we have a really, really interesting topic and one that I'm really passionate about.
0:25.7	And that is how do I stop attaching and how do I start connecting? Right. Like, how do I
0:29.7	stop just attaching to anybody that I date? And I hear this every fucking day. Like I attach to people
0:34.2	after one date. I'm my anxious attachment or I'm super avoidant, whatever the
0:38.2	fuck it is. We're going to talk about it today. I'm going to give you a lot of tools and some stuff
0:42.6	that you guys can utilize and listen through the whole episode. You'll get stuff throughout the
0:46.7	entirety of it. I have audience questions. I got your back, babies. And today we're going to have a
0:51.0	really good conversation. So I'm super excited. Guys, as always, please don't forget to rate and review the show. I get it. If you guys don't like
0:57.7	the ads, no worries. You can get ad free. You can subscribe for four bucks a month and you get
1:01.6	all episodes ad free. And if not, please support our sponsors. And they are the reason that we can
1:06.0	keep the show going. And I'm beyond grateful for all of them. So thank you guys for consistently showing up.
1:11.2	Thank you for being part of this family. And thank you for showing up as yourself and allowing
1:14.8	me to show up as myself. You guys know if you need anything. As you guys know, I'm not taking
1:19.0	any more clients for right now, which is really crazy to say, just because I've been the book
1:23.3	writing process. We have a while to go until that's out. But if you guys need anything, there are the courses. Everything you guys need is in the show notes. You can join the foundation course, the breakup course,
1:30.7	the nervous system course. And we have some new ones coming out this year on self-love and just some
1:35.6	other nervous system things. So I'm super fucking excited. So babies, without further ado, let's get right on
1:40.8	into it, shall we?
1:53.6	Yeah. Let's get right on into it, shall we? All right.
1:55.2	Hi, friends.
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