126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 28 February 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good?

In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring:

The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special).
How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction.
Why fantasy and longing feel safer than real emotional intimacy.
IFS (Internal Family Systems) techniques to uncover and heal the wounded parts of you that keep chasing the unavailable.
How to disrupt the obsession cycle with practical, body-based tools.
The question that will break the spell: What am I afraid will happen if I let them go?

If you’re stuck in your head, constantly replaying what-if scenarios, or convincing yourself they must be the one—this episode is for you. It’s time to step out of the fantasy and reclaim your power.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar,
0:08.1	and I am your host. Hello, friends, we're back for another solo week. And this week,
0:14.4	I listened, I heard the videos went viral, the comments sputed, I got so many fucking DMs. We need another episode on limerence.
0:22.1	So we're back, my babies. We're back with limerence at a different angle, though. I wanted to talk
0:26.8	about this more than just like, it's dopamine, it's attachment styles, and it's like, blah, blah,
0:31.0	okay, cool. I'm sure we know that. Let's go deeper. Let's understand different practices and different
0:36.2	ideologies, different schools of thought. Let's give different practices and different ideologies, different schools of thought.
0:38.6	Let's give deeper perspectives and understandings about limerance. And plus always, you're going to hear
0:43.2	my obnoxiously long stories that I always share with you guys. And we're really going to jampack
0:47.6	this episode. So I am fucking amped. Listen to the whole thing if you want to get the full kitten
0:51.5	caboodle experience. But we're here for you, babes. And as always, if you need anything, that's why we got the courses. We have the breakup course,
0:57.5	the nervous system course, or the foundation course, whatever you guys need. Invest in yourselves.
1:01.6	There are options and you have a lifetime access to them and all the tools you could possibly
1:05.6	fucking need, whether it be me, Masha with the nervous system course, or Britt Frank, and the breakup course.
1:11.9	We're here to have your back, babes.
1:17.4	So, guys, don't forget, follow along on the socials, subscribe on YouTube, listen and right and review the show wherever you're listening.
1:19.3	And as always, please, please, just use kindness in our verbiage, right?
1:23.2	You can leave whatever your reviews you want.
1:24.7	I will never stop you from that. But please don't forget that there is a human that reached on the other side.
1:28.8	And so we are building and cultivating a community of acceptance and love.
1:31.8	And if this is for you, amazing.
1:33.4	We want you here.
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