#131: My Mother Invalidates Me • The Work of Byron Katie®

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🗓️ 28 November 2023

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Susan feels constantly invalidated by her mother, whom she sees as unfair, dismissive, stubborn, selfish, and inauthentic. But is the problem really Susan's mother? Join us for some serious Work on mothers and daughters.

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0:15.7	Hello everyone and welcome to the podcast. Today my guest is Susan and she wants her mother to see the pain and hurt that she inflicts on her and she wants her mother to hear her out, apologize and to change and if you have mother work to do, welcome to the work.
0:30.0	So Susan, honey, you have a Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet for us?
0:35.8	I do, yeah, hi, how are you?
0:37.7	Hi, Susan, hi, honey.
0:40.8	So what is, let's're judge your neighbor work sheet?
0:45.0	Okay, so it's around my mother
0:50.0	and forgive me because I'm to be emotional around it.
0:54.3	Yeah.
0:55.3	The thought is you invalidate my feelings.
1:00.8	Okay. Yeah. Okay. Good old mothers. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
1:07.0	Yeah. Oh, mother work. didn't know it so well.
1:15.0	What is this situation?
1:17.0	Those of you new to the work, this worksheet has six questions on it,
1:22.0	and Susan's answered those. So now we're going to
1:25.0	question them. So the situation around it is every time I feel that when I share with my mother something that I'm doing and
1:41.1	it's usually around career. It will always be met by an excited moment and then on top of it a fearful thought from her which then triggers my I'm not good enough.
1:56.7	So she gets excited at first and then she comes in with advice and then it's more of a statement. It's more like, oh, so are you going to be
2:08.0	there forever because I'm self-employed, right? Or it's usually something that will trigger that I didn't do enough
2:17.0	uh-huh sure her.
2:19.0	Yeah.
2:20.0	Okay.
2:21.0	So you're, you're, um so you're sharing, are you on the phone or sitting with her in this situation?
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