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132: Resentment, Expectations, and Unmet Needs: The Three Relationship Killers With Dr. Morgan Cutlip

The Sabrina Zohar Show

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.94.8K Ratings

🗓️ 4 April 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, psychologist and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins Sabrina to unpack the three silent relationship killers that derail connection: resentment, unmet needs, and unrealistic expectations. Whether you’re single, dating, or married with kids, this conversation dives into how these patterns sneak in, how to name them before they take over, and how to build emotional safety without losing your voice. From the belief that “they should just know” to the fear of being too much, Dr. Morgan and Sabrina explore how communication, vulnerability, and clear needs are the foundation of sustainable intimacy.

You’ll learn how to express your needs without guilt, how to approach hard conversations without triggering defensiveness, and how to avoid falling into the toxic “mothering” dynamic that kills attraction. The episode is filled with personal stories, relatable insights, and no-BS tools to help you stop walking on eggshells and start creating the kind of partnership you actually want. Whether you’re navigating a new relationship or reevaluating a long-term one, this episode offers the clarity and compassion you need to move forward.

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0:00.0

Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show.

0:05.0

My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.

0:08.0

Welcome back, babies.

0:10.0

Happy Friday, gang.

0:11.0

I'm so excited not to ruin the episode today, but we're going to talk about something pretty fucking important, which are three silent relationship killers.

0:18.0

I'm not going to tell you what they are yet.

0:20.0

We're joined by the amazing Dr. Morgan Cutlip and I'm so excited. She is such a fantastic therapist and just so full of

0:26.0

knowledge. You guys are going to learn so fucking much and I can't wait. Guys, as always, thank you

0:29.6

so much for showing up as you and allowing me to show up as me-one, you want to get some merch, whatever you guys need. Everything will be linked in the show notes. We're here to support. You can download a free guide or you can

0:40.5

just join the email list or follow along on socials, whatever the fuck you guys want. I am here

0:44.0

here to support you guys. All right. Without further ado I'm so happy to be here. Oh, God. You guys are in for a treat. We just talked for like 30 minutes. We had to stop ourselves and be like, let's record this. So we don't lose so much meat and potatoes. But I am so excited today because I want to talk. I have three relationship killers, but I'm sure I've missed out. You've been married for a minute. I've been in a

1:11.4

relationship. So I'm really excited to give new perspectives to our audience so that you guys know wherever you're at,

1:16.2

whether you're single, dating, in a relationship, or married, we are here to help you. But I really wanted to

1:21.2

hit on kind of these like silent relationship killers that I don't think a lot of us understand how they kind of manifest. And that, to me, was resentment expectations and unmet needs. But I know we're going to have a lot more fun. But before we go, could you please just tell us a little bit about yourself? What you do? You're an incredible author. You have a book coming out. Like, can you just share a little bit more? All right. This is, I told you before we got on. I'm like, this is the hardest question for me. I don't know where to start. So I have a PhD in psychology. I've been in the field of relationships for over 20 years. My backstory is that my dad has his doctor in psychology. You went back to school when I was in elementary school. And because, you know, he was working full time, had a family. It took him a very long time to finish school. And so I used to go to classes with him. And we would play this game where we'd be driving in the car and he would just give me like a fake case. And he'd be like, how would you help this family? What do you think's going on with a little boy? You can help me pick it apart. And it became my most favorite game that we played.

2:19.0

And I just feel like from there on out, I just had a love for this profession. And so I don't know,

2:25.1

maybe around high school or beginning of undergrad, I remember coming from an event with him,

2:31.2

I traveled to conferences with him. I spoke with him at a young age. And, you know, I said, someday I want to do something to help women. And so that sort of shaped the

2:38.0

trajectory of my career. So I have a book for moms. It's called Love Your Kids Without Losing for

2:41.5

yourself. And then I have a book coming out in April to do it. So yeah. So that's what I do know is I create content,

2:52.4

courses, books and things like that to help women in their relationships. All that fun stuff.

2:56.8

I'm super excited. I'm very, very honored to have you here. Thank you. And we know, for a lot of

3:01.6

people that do have kids, like it's great to have a resource and an option for them, but then for the people like us that don't, it's like, great, we don't have to just tailor it to that. But like, I think you had mentioned even that

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