131: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 28 March 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just tired of dating people who can’t show up, this episode will hit home. Sabrina breaks down the signs of real emotional availability, how to check in with your nervous system, and practical tools to stop performing and start connecting. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” — this one’s for you.

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello.
0:02.6	And welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar show.
0:04.8	My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.
0:08.0	Welcome back, my babes.
0:10.4	Another soul.
0:11.4	Another opportunity for us to connect a little bit deeper.
0:13.8	In today's episode, I'm actually super excited about it because it's something that I've been tiptoeing around, but like, we're going for the jugular, my babes.
0:20.4	What does
0:20.8	their emotional availability say about yours? We're talking all things emotionally available,
0:25.6	how to become emotionally available, what does vulnerability mean? How do you actually show
0:29.5	vulnerability? What's the difference between that and oversharing? I got you guys. Because more
0:34.0	often than not, we think, well, I keep going for all these emotionally and available people. I don't understand. And it's like, oh, welcome to the mirror effect.
0:41.3	So, guys, I'm so excited. As always, if you need anything, please don't forget, rate and review
0:45.2	the show with love and kindness if you're going to leave anything. Again, we're building a community.
0:49.0	This isn't about talking shit. It's about giving honest feedback, and I'm here for it. You can leave a comment on YouTube, on Spotify, share it with a friend. That's really all we ask. And if you guys need anything,
0:58.1	there's some free guides in the link in bio or link in show notes or whatever. And you can join
1:01.8	one of the courses. We've got the foundation course, the breakup course, or the nervous system
1:04.5	course. You guys ask about it all the time about regulating techniques. And that's why we have the nervous system course. Not everything can be in a podcast form,
1:11.3	and now we have something for you guys. So as always, thank you guys for showing up as you and
1:16.6	allowing me to show up as me. So without further ado, let's get right the fuck on into it, shall we?
1:22.3	Okay, friends, welcome to the emotional intelligence series, right? Last solo, we had the episode on what the fuck is emotional intelligence and all that. And I think it's something that we're not really talking enough about, especially in our culture, right? We're not really talking about how do people show up? How are they showing up with themselves and other people? Do they have the bandwidth, right? The capacity to show up in a different way. And I'm really
1:45.5	excited. And I'm also really stoked. We're getting so much amazing positive feedback on like the new
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