190 - Friday Fix: 7 Reasons You Allow People to Mistreat You

The Verywell Mind Podcast

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Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Education

5 • 703 Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2022

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

While you can’t control how other people behave, you can control how you respond to them. If you’ve allowed someone to treat you poorly and you didn’t address their behavior, it’s important to consider why. It may have to do with the other person–like you fear what would happen if you spoke up. Or, it may have more to do with you–like you fear what would happen to you if the other person stopped being in your life. Once you understand why you allow mistreatment to happen, you can take helpful action. In this episode of The Verywell Mind Podcast, I explain the top seven reasons why you might allow someone to mistreat you. I also share how you can take steps to move forward in a healthy way if someone treats you poorly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Very Well Mind podcast. We've interviewed over 100 authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and others to help you learn strategies to care for your mental health.
0:22.9	This episode is hosted by psychotherapist and bestselling author Amy Morin. Now let's get into the episode.
0:45.5	Okay. You're listening to the Friday Picks.
0:52.5	Every Friday, I share a quick mental strength strategy that can help fix the thoughts, feelings, and actions that can bowl you back in life.
0:55.1	As a therapist, I've treated many people who wanted to know why they allow other people to mistreat them. Sometimes that question comes
1:00.6	from someone who's entered into a romantic relationship that they know is unhealthy. They recognize
1:06.1	that the other person is disrespectful and they know they wouldn't want someone else to be treated
1:10.4	that way, but they stay in their't want someone else to be treated that way,
1:11.2	but they stay in their relationship and aren't sure why. At other times, it's a question from someone
1:16.4	who says they get mistreated at work by a boss or a coworker, and they don't do anything about it
1:21.4	because they aren't sure what to do, or they're just afraid of what might happen if they
1:26.3	tried to stand up for themselves.
1:28.3	But it's likely that almost all of us have found ourselves in a situation like this at one time or another,
1:33.9	where we allowed somebody to treat us poorly.
1:37.1	And maybe you're someone who's allowed it to happen over and over again.
1:40.9	If you allow someone to mistreat you, understanding why you do it can be the first step
1:45.9	to creating positive change if you in fact decide that you do want to do things differently.
1:51.7	When I'm done explaining the top seven reasons why I see people allow themselves to be mistreated,
1:57.2	I'll explain about some of the steps you can take to address the situation. And just to be clear,
2:02.5	I'm not talking about domestic violence when I talk about ideas for how to respond to mistreatment.
2:07.4	If you're in a situation that involves domestic violence, contact the National Domestic Violence
2:11.8	Hotline to get help. Here are seven reasons why you might be willing to spend time with people who treat you poorly.
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