198: Is it Okay for My Kid to Gossip with Her Friends Online?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2024

⏱️ 26 minutes

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“Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. ________________ Is your child gossiping with friends online? In this episode, Reena and Dr. Lisa dive into the complex social dynamics of middle and high school, focusing on the fact that it’s not unusual for kids to talk in unkind ways about their classmates. They explore why tweens and teens engage in these behaviors, appropriate ways for them to air their views, and how to talk with kids about their digital footprints. This episode helps parents provide guidance and perspective while navigating the reality that kids sometimes need help knowing how and where to vent their frustrations about their peers. We want to hear from you! How do you help your teen manage the social challenges of school? Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com ________________ Episode Keywords: gossiping, gossip, online behavior, digital footprint, communication, boundaries, social dynamics, rumors, online gossip Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:06.9	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.3	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.7	And I'm Dr. Lisa D'Amour.
0:20.3	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
0:32.0	So subscribe to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast, and join our YouTube community today. We're here to help
0:39.3	you untangle family life. Episode 198, is it okay for my kid to gossip with her friends online?
0:54.0	So we're going to talk about gossiping today. And I feel like it's a lifelong learning process of what happens when you move your mouth too much.
1:02.9	Exactly. And it's such a human thing to do, right? To want to gossip a bit. And you're right. Adults do it. Kids do it. Teenagers definitely do it.
1:12.5	Yeah. And so I want to break into the psychology of all that why we do, why it makes us feel so good.
1:17.6	Let me read you this letter first, Lisa. Hi, Lisa, I have a question for the podcast. My 13-year-old
1:22.6	daughter is very social and enjoys talking and texting with friends, as most kids do. She has good relationships
1:29.1	from what I see and hear. She knows I check her phone and I don't have major concerns,
1:34.2	except I do worry about gossiping via tech, email, text. Of course, I do not approve of gossiping.
1:41.1	However, I surmise this is a normal part of teen behavior. It scares me,
1:46.2	though, because I know I wasn't perfect and also gossiped at this age, but I wasn't leaving
1:51.3	behind a digital footprint that could get me in trouble. Kids today can get in a lot of trouble
1:57.7	with screenshots. Is this something to advise her about or just to let it go?
2:04.7	I worry she may lose friends if her gossipy chats are shared with the wrong people. Thank you.
2:10.9	Okay, the digital trail that this mom talks about, until I read this letter, I did not think about the digital
2:18.7	trail that normal gossip doesn't really entail. Not face-to-face gossip or not hop on the phone
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