Yo, today's Q-O-T is shame is about being.

Guilt is about doing.

Here we go. Welcome back to the quarter of the day show.

I'm your host Sean Croxton and Sean Croxton.com.

We got John Bradshaw on this show today. He is the author of the day show. I'm your host Sean Croxton and Sean Croxton.com. We got John Bradshaw on this show today.

He is the author of Healing the Shame That Binds.

And today he's going to talk about the difference between guilt and shame

and why embracing the pain of shame is the first step to healing.

John Bradshaw's coming up.

The worst thing of all, the thing that shames people the most of all is perfectionism.

Perfectionism is what puts people down because you're always having to compare to some norm

and you never measure up.

If any of you are a Judeo-Christian tradition, that's why the law can't save anybody.

Because it's always the law that you're comparing yourself to.

And that's not what it was about.

What was about is I love you unconditionally.

Yahweh loved his people unconditionally. Unconditional forgiveness. Build a new arc, put a mark on

cane, just keep the thing going. Let them know that I love them. And so that's the kind of thing.

Now, once all this abandonment, shame-based modeling happens,

then a person over a period of time becomes shame-based. Now, when you're shame-based,

you feel deep down like you're flawed and defective as a human being. And you have to develop

mood alteration.

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